Back together but how do I end things with another I was kind of dating?

[beyondcrushed]

My exbf and I got back together a couple weeks ago. We are taking it slow. We are pretty happy about it. We have been apart for 6 months. We have had talks about what went wrong the first time and why. We also disclosed intimate relationships we've had with others since we broke up.

 

I dated quite a bit. When my exbf and I got back together, I was seeing three men casually. I ended it with two. The third man was a friend I started hanging out with after my breakup and then we became intimate. He has a girlfriend and I didn't really want casual, so I told this friend I wanted to just be friends without benefits. He was good with that. But then my exbf and I got back together. My exbf knows about this friend and that I will no longer be intimate with him. Although my exbf should trust me, I don't want to cause any undue problems with my exbf. Since this friend and I weren’t in a relationship, and since we decided to just be friends without benefits, there was nothing to end. But I don’t plan on hanging out with my friend again. So I hinted to my friend that I wouldn’t be by saying, “I’m back with my exbf.” My friend didn’t get the hint and has been asking to hangout with me.

 

I know that just because I have a bf I shouldn’t ditch friends and that my bf should trust me, but this situation is a little ackward/different.

 

How should I deal with this situation? I really want things to workout with my exbf.

What and how do I tell this friend more explicitly that I won’t be hanging out with him without being a jerk?

Edited March 20, 2014 by beyondcrushed

[ThorntonMelon]

You tell him you won't be hanging out with him anymore because you want to focus on your relationship with your boyfriend and wish him well. Then block his number, etc.

[waytogo10]

You tell him you won't be hanging out with him anymore because you want to focus on your relationship with your boyfriend and wish him well. Then block his number, etc.

 

This. You can't be friends with him, because he is always going to want more, since you were intimate. This is a no win situation for you if you want things to work with your exbf. Don't mess it up if you want your exbf back. It's not going to be worth it.

[beyondcrushed]

Your advice was awesome. Thanks so much! I just told my "friend". I feel like a weight is lifted off my shoulders. Phew!