someonespecial Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I was just wondering if everyone else prepares for dates, more specifically men. I always prepare by thinking of questions I could ask so that we will have a great conversation. Do men do that at well or do they just chance it and see if it turns out to be a good date?
gaius Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I'll usually have some things to talk about in case the conversation stumbles. But in general if there's any chemistry you get into a rhythm pretty quick and don't need much of it.
pickflicker Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I was just wondering if everyone else prepares for dates, more specifically men. I always prepare by thinking of questions I could ask so that we will have a great conversation. Do men do that at well or do they just chance it and see if it turns out to be a good date? No. I'm never lost for words. Can talk the hind leg off a dog if you let me. That's useful if the guy is a bit introverted, if I get the conversation ball rolling, he'll come it of his shell a bit. On the first date, I tend to do more listening and let a guy set the pace. I'm a bit of a comedienne, so when all else fails, I crack jokes. Always works. 3
David87 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I was just wondering if everyone else prepares for dates, more specifically men. I always prepare by thinking of questions I could ask so that we will have a great conversation. Do men do that at well or do they just chance it and see if it turns out to be a good date? No because that puts presure on the whole situation. When you overthink things usually you blow your chances of making a good impresion. Just go on the date with confidence, be natural, funny and always listen to the girl, look her in her eyes. If there's chemistry things go smooth.
David87 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 No. I'm never lost for words. Can talk the hind leg off a dog if you let me. That's useful if the guy is a bit introverted, if I get the conversation ball rolling, he'll come it of his shell a bit. On the first date, I tend to do more listening and let a guy set the pace. I'm a bit of a comedienne, so when all else fails, I crack jokes. Always works. I just love making jokes, especially when silent moments occur. At that point I know if the date went well or not.
pickflicker Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I just love making jokes, especially when silent moments occur. At that point I know if the date went well or not. The true test for me is if someone's sense of humour is as inappropriate as mine! 2
David87 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 The true test for me is if someone's sense of humour is as inappropriate as mine! That's a tricky one Pick. 1
Author someonespecial Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 I dont normally prepare for a date, however, this guy is very shy. I dont want it to be to awkward so I have thought of some things to talk about just in case there is extreme silence. I just wondered if everyone else did the same. This is our second date. I am normally a talker so I did not prepare for the first date. He told me he liked that I talked alot and that it took the pressure off of him as he is shy. Maybe I will keep these ideas in the back of my mind just in case he doesnt open up a little more. I am hoping it will be easier this time around because we have already went out once.
David87 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I dont normally prepare for a date, however, this guy is very shy. I dont want it to be to awkward so I have thought of some things to talk about just in case there is extreme silence. I just wondered if everyone else did the same. This is our second date. I am normally a talker so I did not prepare for the first date. He told me he liked that I talked alot and that it took the pressure off of him as he is shy. Maybe I will keep these ideas in the back of my mind just in case he doesnt open up a little more. I am hoping it will be easier this time around because we have already went out once. Hey don't prepare for nothing. Let me give you a example.Let's say an awkward moment of silence occurs... Make a joke ''hey look it's a bird, that reminds me of that plane that disappeared a couple of weeks ago, do you think that the government is involved ?'' and from there you can go on for hours... just like that...
soccerrprp Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I was just wondering if everyone else prepares for dates, more specifically men. I always prepare by thinking of questions I could ask so that we will have a great conversation. Do men do that at well or do they just chance it and see if it turns out to be a good date? I usually go over a profile quickly, but try not to prep too much. Want things to be organic as possible and if I'm thinking too much, it hinders that.
quidproquo89 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I think casually work out what conversation threads you might use but like before you leave. Then just relax, as others have said be confident, natural, conversational and humorous
Author someonespecial Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 David I wish I was as comical as you. I cant ever remember jokes, otherwise I would definitely do that. 1
RonaldS Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Nope. No point in prepping. As Mike Tyson said, everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth. Best to just go in open and see where things go. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I would prepare to the extent that I would make sure to review the news / current events for a day or two before the date just to make sure I was well versed in case the other person brought it up. I didn't want to be caught unaware & come across as uninformed / stupid.
Keenly Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Other than making sure I look and smell good, I don't prepare. I have a way with words so as long as I'm getting 50% from her its going to be a breeze and she will be laughing and smiling the whole time. 2
BradJacobs Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Other than making sure I look and smell good, I don't prepare. I have a way with words so as long as I'm getting 50% from her its going to be a breeze and she will be laughing and smiling the whole time. This. And bring condoms.
Haydn Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Put my best skinny levi`s on. Look in the mirror and say `I`m ready`, Leave the house, head for the tube smelling like a freshly laundered shirt, click my heels, meet the lady, doff my imaginary hat and tell her how much i love her taste in tiara`s, the rest should be no bother. 1
Haydn Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I think you will find it is..... Did you hear the one about????? (Rolling in the isles) (Tescos express at 3am) The true test for me is if someone's sense of humour is as inappropriate as mine! 1
pickflicker Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Put my best skinny levi`s on. Look in the mirror and say `I`m ready`, Leave the house, head for the tube smelling like a freshly laundered shirt, click my heels, meet the lady, doff my imaginary hat and tell her how much i love her taste in tiara`s, the rest should be no bother. Who could say dating is difficult when you put it like that!
Yur Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I'm male and I do this, even make a little list of conversation topics.. though I've started to wonder whether it's a good thing or not. Good dates I forget about those topics, the conversation just flows and these are dates that go somewhere. The ones where I really have to pull on them feel like worse dates, like an interview. Those dates will probably be bad, prep or not. I'm going to try to not do it and see how it goes. To op - do you feel the extra prep has helped with dates so far?
acrosstheuniverse Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Nah. It's all about chemistry. All of the lists of questions in the world won't make a date 'great' unless you're feeling it from one another. And if you're feeling it, you will go off tangent really fast and have a laugh with each other anyway. But if you're particularly anxious about dates there's nothing wrong with preparing just so you feel more in control.
GravityMan Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 If you two are really into each other and click well - then conversations can easily take a life of their own, naturally transitioning from subject to subject, organically meandering, smoothly off on the occasional tangent. Thus, in such cases "prep" is not all that necessary. At most, all that should be needed is to keep a small amount of prepared "conversation starters" in your back of your mind, in case an awkward silence or other flow-breaking incident occurs. However, if conversation frequently sputters then that's a sign you two aren't meshing well and probably are incompatible. David I wish I was as comical as you. I cant ever remember jokes, otherwise I would definitely do that. Many people tend to be at their funniest when they are at ease, don't think too hard and just go with the flow. Humor comes naturally and is one of the most unique aspects of an individual's personality. Some of the most amusing people I know don't crack a whole lot of canned jokes. They just have a good, sharp, situational, quick wit. And they're able to show it in ways that almost anyone can get. Effective humor is among the best icebreakers out there and is excellent at making others feel comfortable and good.
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