Silver93 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Hi, this question is aimed towards the girls of the shack. I am a 20 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. I would love to have one but I have't really had the opportunities. My opinion is that a guy should treat a girl with nothing but utmost respect. I would open doors for her, ask her how her days has went, try and cheer her up when she's down and more along those lines. I would consider myself a bit of a hopeless romantic but can I be too much? Thanks for reading.
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Absolutely not! I realize that I'm of a generation where men treated women like queens and where chivalry was bred into young boys so asking women my age if being respectful and courteous is TOO much, not only makes me scoff at the question but saddens me that you even have to ASK the question at all What is this world coming to? If a woman can't handle your kind spirit then they're not worth your time or energy and ultimately not meant for you. NEXT! Trust me, there are plenty of women out there of all ages that will appreciate what you have to offer. Just stay discerning, remain steadfast in your resolve and NEVER become discouraged. Your mama raised you right 6
LostConfused123 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Absolutely not! I realize that I'm of a generation where men treated women like queens and where chivalry was bred into young boys so asking women my age if being respectful and courteous is TOO much, not only makes me scoff at the question but saddens me that you even have to ASK the question at all What is this world coming to? If a woman can't handle your kind spirit then they're not worth your time or energy and ultimately not meant for you. NEXT! Trust me, there are plenty of women out there of all ages that will appreciate what you have to offer. Just stay discerning, remain steadfast in your resolve and NEVER become discouraged. Your mama raised you right Exactly this 3
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 What you are describing would be a dream come true for a lot of women. When I read your thread title though, I went to the physical. I couldn't handle a guy who couldn't stop touching me. Under certain circumstances it would be great but all the time would make me nuts. 1
Michael91 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Hi, this question is aimed towards the girls of the shack. I am a 20 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. I would love to have one but I have't really had the opportunities. My opinion is that a guy should treat a girl with nothing but utmost respect. I would open doors for her, ask her how her days has went, try and cheer her up when she's down and more along those lines. I would consider myself a bit of a hopeless romantic but can I be too much? Thanks for reading. Treating a girl with utmost respect will not harm a relationship. However, if the girl can date guys that are more attractive, more athletic, or have higher incomes, they are going to go for the more desirable guy whether or not he treats her with respect. Therefore, if the girl can do better, she doesn't want you anyway.
LilySun Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 That is all very sweet. That is exactly what most women want. But everyone, men and women both, has their own personal limit as far as "space". It's a matter of knowing what that is for a person. What 1 person considers "smothered" might be different for the next. So you can still do all those things as long as it doesn't cross that line for the one on the receiving end. But there are also people who don't desire or appreciate these things. Just make sure you find someone who does and be yourself.
Cadenza Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Hi, this question is aimed towards the girls of the shack. I am a 20 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. I would love to have one but I have't really had the opportunities. My opinion is that a guy should treat a girl with nothing but utmost respect. I would open doors for her, ask her how her days has went, try and cheer her up when she's down and more along those lines. I would consider myself a bit of a hopeless romantic but can I be too much? Thanks for reading. Marry me?
Author Silver93 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 Absolutely not! I realize that I'm of a generation where men treated women like queens and where chivalry was bred into young boys so asking women my age if being respectful and courteous is TOO much, not only makes me scoff at the question but saddens me that you even have to ASK the question at all What is this world coming to? If a woman can't handle your kind spirit then they're not worth your time or energy and ultimately not meant for you. NEXT! Trust me, there are plenty of women out there of all ages that will appreciate what you have to offer. Just stay discerning, remain steadfast in your resolve and NEVER become discouraged. Your mama raised you right Thanks for the lovely reply Marry me?
Author Silver93 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 What you are describing would be a dream come true for a lot of women. When I read your thread title though, I went to the physical. I couldn't handle a guy who couldn't stop touching me. Under certain circumstances it would be great but all the time would make me nuts. I see your point. I would always be aware to not smother a girl. Thanks for your reply.
warrenorabbits Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I see your point. I would always be aware to not smother a girl. Thanks for your reply. To this I would add make your definition of "smother" align with hers as much as possible and try to read body language. As for your inexperience, don't worry. There's this weird rush for men to date early and often, which is a stupid gender role and something that you shouldn't worry about. If you want to increase your chances, though, just do some introspection and find the parts of you that are interesting. What's your sense of humour like? Then, without being desperate, just go places where you can meet people and be friendly. 2
Author Silver93 Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 To this I would add make your definition of "smother" align with hers as much as possible and try to read body language. As for your inexperience, don't worry. There's this weird rush for men to date early and often, which is a stupid gender role and something that you shouldn't worry about. If you want to increase your chances, though, just do some introspection and find the parts of you that are interesting. What's your sense of humour like? Then, without being desperate, just go places where you can meet people and be friendly. Thanks for the reply, I would consider my sense of humour one of my best aspects. I'm always up for a laugh even if it's at my expense
Phantom888 Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Hi, this question is aimed towards the girls of the shack. I am a 20 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. I would love to have one but I have't really had the opportunities. My opinion is that a guy should treat a girl with nothing but utmost respect. I would open doors for her, ask her how her days has went, try and cheer her up when she's down and more along those lines. I would consider myself a bit of a hopeless romantic but can I be too much? Thanks for reading. You sound like a good dude for the ladies, so keep being yourself! You'd be surprised how many selfish man-childs are out there who don't respect women, and are afraid to love/commit to a woman. Good news, that makes guys like you super desirable!! Women love to be romanced and wooed. Keep in mind, however.... DO NOT be a pushover. You can genuinely love a woman, but don't put her on a pedestal. You would risk smothering her and/or be seen as weak. Be strong about what you believe in, and see her as a counterpart instead of a queen. There is a fine line between being a romantic versus a doormat. Learn the difference, and be as affectionate as you want! The lucky lady will definitely appreciate you! 1
mr_dave Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 Hi, this question is aimed towards the girls of the shack. I am a 20 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. I would love to have one but I have't really had the opportunities. My opinion is that a guy should treat a girl with nothing but utmost respect. I would open doors for her, ask her how her days has went, try and cheer her up when she's down and more along those lines. I would consider myself a bit of a hopeless romantic but can I be too much? Thanks for reading. Girls say they love all this stuff, but I think at your age they would be few and far between. A lot more are attracted to dangerous types who mess them around. The mature girls get snapped up pretty quickly, it's likely that as a nice decent guy you'll have to wait for women to grow up and realign their desires with regards to what they want in a man. As time goes by however you will definitely become a more attractive proposition to the ladies after they have grown out of their poor tastes. Good luck, you sound like a great guy! 1
Author Silver93 Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 Thanks for all the responses. I find it frustrating when I see guys treating their girlfriends poorly and I can't even get a girlfriend. I have so much love to give.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Sadly Silver, you'll find what is said in letters on an anonymous forum tends to be much different than the behavior and actions of the woman/girl in real life sitting across the table from you. You've got to learn the rules of the game and how to be respectful to yourself, not just being respectful to these women, you're likely overdoing it and you're going to see a lot of hypocritical behavior out of women...where they say one thing then do another, try not to let your head spin too much in confusion, just go by what you're seeing and experiencing, try things out for yourself and learn. Otherwise you're going to be upset and confused when you're doing everything "right" and nobody is seeing it or wanting it, and remember, relationships aren't just storybooks or movies, being Mr. romantic can often times make you seem desperate, overly invested and needy and there's no challenge in that for young women. 1
Syconort Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Ninja touches on an important point. I am, too, a hopeless romantic. But notice how some days you don't feel like being romantic? Imagine somebody was ceaselessly romantic with you, constantly, even when you're having a bad day. You think that might get on your nerves? Same goes for women. Of course, women want to be appreciated and treated with love and respect, but I doubt many women want a man who is constantly mushy. That creates a predictability about you, and that's how you sap the excitement out of a relationship. My advice: be romantic, but focus your efforts on subtle displays of affection. Use it sparingly and it will keep the fire burning. Overdo it and you'll douse the flames.
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