Today was my ex boyfriend's birthday.

[Wings Of Love]

I was all prepared for it to be painful, and for the temptation to contact him to be overwhelming. I woke up and I felt a sharp pang when I remembered the date...and that was it.

 

I barely thought about him all day. On the odd occasion that he did cross my mind, I felt no need to wish him happy birthday. I found that I didn't really care how he was celebrating, or who he was celebrating with. I was at home all day, so there was nothing to distract me and still I did not consider contacting him. Not even for a second.

 

I find this strange because I wouldn't say I'm even close to being over him yet. I still miss him a lot and I am terrified of ever finding out he's seeing someone else. I'll even admit that I still want to be with him. But today, on this day that we would once have spent together, none of that mattered.

 

Very odd indeed. But I can't complain; I've had a good, pain-free day despite dreading this day for quite a few weeks. Perhaps I really am stronger than I thought.

[chir]

I would only say good for you.. The pain of heartache is to say the least ..excruciating

 

Could you share how long did you took to come to this stage..i know you are still missing him

even griefing him..but at least you are functioning now.. when the pains comes

There is another feeling..indifference. .and that is a huge step..

 

what stages did you gone through prior to this.

 

I have been going through ups n downs for almost a month..

 

i think yes a part is about getting over him, our memories his affection..

ANOTHER biggest portion is.. i haven't get over myself.. The fact that

I am all alone, lonely again....

[sooshi]

I'm glad you didn't feel the need to contact him, or the need to know who he was spending the day with, or what he was doing. I'm glad it was a pain-free day for you.

 

My ex-fiance's birthday is coming up. I've also been dreading how I will feel. But regardless of how I feel, I know I won't be contacting him, and I know I won't hear from him. Like the way you're not over your ex, I'm not over mine. But even though we won't speak then, I do miss him and I hope that he has a good day, which I'm sure he will.

Edited March 20, 2014 by sooshi

[Strength in Healing]

Today was also the birthday of my friend at my police academy. That may help to know the birthday is shared...

[melell]

Oddly enough when I was getting over my ex 9 times out of 10 anticipating things making me feel bad was much worse than how I ended up feeling.

 

Like while traveling to our favorite location without them I would feel anxious and uncomfortable, but as soon as I arrived it was fine. Or watching movies we would watch together I would be like 'oh I am going to feel terrible' but ending up enjoying it all the same.