Author hermitinator Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 Your boyfriend is planning to have you support him for the rest of his life. No wonder he is manipulating you to stay. He's got a great deal. ' This morning, my mom called me. Concerned, she asked a weird question: are you financially supporting [him]? I thought it was a weird question to ask, but denied it because in reality, I haven't been financially supporting him, but there were times in which I had given him a hefty amount of cash so he could survive a week or two before his amount of government money came in (he paid me back).
Author hermitinator Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 But... don't settle and don't be manipulated. If he changes just slightly (but not significantly) and leaves you hanging on with statements of "oh but I'm trying.. can't you see that I'm trying.." well, if that starts to happen, then leave him. Don't waste your time giving him a long time to fix himself. . He has been saying that, that he's trying. I give him points for trying.
Author hermitinator Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 He called me. Telling me how he has a lot to offer, that he is moving forward, that if I don't want him, that's my fault. That he won't cry for me because he did all the crying last time. That he won't judge me if I get back with him. Blames me for being an alcoholic. That he thought we could have worked through this, but apparently not. Said he still wants to be there for me, that he knows that I am moving forward in life. Even though, I was the one who called the shots, I am devastated. I am doing him a favor though. He should be with someone who isn't doubting the relationship and who is 110% confident that she wants to be in the relationship and that this is the man that she wants to be with. I am not deserving and should have done him a favor by calling it quits a lot earlier, when there were small early signs.
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