saltyfishhead666 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I've met a guy online that I really like through talking too... And since I've noticed I have little to no interest in other men. He's funny, kind and extremely handsome! - most other men that attempt to talk to me seem to be dull as dishwater or blabber on about sex! Exclusivity is not happening right now, as date 1 needs to happen. How do I play it cool? I literally want to say "arggggggh I really like you I wanted you all for myself" but can't and haven't... Please give me some advice. I don't want to ruin it with keenness Thank you
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 You know you can't just blurt out that you like him. What you can do is take steps to make date # 1 happen. Only after you meet IRL should you even think about whether he's THE ONE.
meeji Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 You also could date someone else. I've dated multiple people before and it helps having your attention split between two people rather than all of it going towards one. Some people shame women who do this but I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as you aren't stringing people along and are upfront about casually dating. Keep your options open. It is something to consider.
David87 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Go on a date first and then see if you feel the same way about him. Until then date other people if it's possible.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 We are talking about a date next week as he has three days off In a row. It's tricky because I like their to be a "click" If conversation flows easily and doesn't need forcing I think ooooh I like this!! Bit tricky to keep my options open and carry on dating others while liking him. However I'll give it a shot. Even if it stops me from being too eager then it accomplishes something. Thank you
Gaeta Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I've met a guy online that I really like through talking too... And since I've noticed I have little to no interest in other men. He's funny, kind and extremely handsome! - most other men that attempt to talk to me seem to be dull as dishwater or blabber on about sex! Exclusivity is not happening right now, as date 1 needs to happen. How do I play it cool? I literally want to say "arggggggh I really like you I wanted you all for myself" but can't and haven't... Please give me some advice. I don't want to ruin it with keenness Thank you Don't ever get excited over a man you have not met yet. I don't have enough fingers to count the times I was swept off my feel by an online contact and it turned into a total flop face to face. How do you play it cool? You don't. Just play being yourself. 2
quidproquo89 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Be chatty, interesting and smile on the first date. I'd just say I'm having a nice time and perhaps end on a kiss if your both comfortable. See hoe you feel after three/four dates before getting more intimate, I'd say. Just enjoy each others company, make sure the conversation and humour is good and do fun activities
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 Don't ever get excited over a man you have not met yet. I don't have enough fingers to count the times I was swept off my feel by an online contact and it turned into a total flop face to face. How do you play it cool? You don't. Just play being yourself. You are right I am trying not to get too excited and get my hopes up... I need better willpower lol!! Flop face made me laugh though
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 Well we exchanged a few texts very early this morning And he's not replied in like 6 hours but has been on pof (noticed this while following advice and attempting to date others too) Pushed my luck maybe... I hate the dating game
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Of course he's still on POF. He's not going to stop looking before he even meets you. His level of interest is more typical. Yours is over the top at this point. You are setting yourself up for a big disappointment. Please calm down. What difference does it make that he has 3 days off next week for your date? A 1st date / meeting from OL should be about 1 hour. Even a dinner date is about 4 hours. Why does he need 72? Are you already dreaming / planning for a sleep over? Re-think that. It won't end well. You don't know this man.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 Of course he's still on POF. He's not going to stop looking before he even meets you. His level of interest is more typical. Yours is over the top at this point. You are setting yourself up for a big disappointment. Please calm down. What difference does it make that he has 3 days off next week for your date? A 1st date / meeting from OL should be about 1 hour. Even a dinner date is about 4 hours. Why does he need 72? Are you already dreaming / planning for a sleep over? Re-think that. It won't end well. You don't know this man. I didn't mean simply that he was on pof, I meant simply that he hadn't responded to my text - however was on pof so couldn't be busy? I know - hence the point of the thread. Trying to get myself inline so I don't make fatal errors not just with him but with anyone else. 3 days off is simply because he's a military policeman. Odd shift patterns at the moment that happen to be 2pm till 8am and I'm not free during the daytime No planned sleepovers haha
Gaeta Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Well we exchanged a few texts very early this morning And he's not replied in like 6 hours but has been on pof (noticed this while following advice and attempting to date others too) Pushed my luck maybe... I hate the dating game When online dating here is the frame of mind you have to have. You are the sexiest woman in town , you are IT, you've got it all, and if this dude doesn't see it that way then there are 100s of other men waiting in line to grab you! You are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment here but it's normal for someone starting online. I was like that too a few years ago. I use to go to meeting * gosh I hope he will like me * now when I go to meet a man I think * I hope I like him and I am not ****ing wasting my time again * (lol) 1
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 When online dating here is the frame of mind you have to have. You are the sexiest woman in town , you are IT, you've got it all, and if this dude doesn't see it that way then there are 100s of other men waiting in line to grab you! You are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment here but it's normal for someone starting online. I was like that too a few years ago. I use to go to meeting * gosh I hope he will like me * now when I go to meet a man I think * I hope I like him and I am not ****ing wasting my time again * (lol) I've deleted his number now - no more texting from me. I'm going to allow him to "be the man" so they say and at least fake the "i am the queen of dating" until I Make it lol cx
petall Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Nuff said. He's on POF aka the hook up site. The guy is going to have MANY other options. Rein in your emotions until he shows you he warrants your special feelings.
Phantom888 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Let the first meet happen 1st. You might be surprised. He might be perfect on paper but meh in real life. You really don't know the chemistry until the FIRST KISS. That's how my fiancee and I knew we were made for each other. That 1st kiss will tell you a lot about how compatible you two are.
MidwestUSA Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I've deleted his number now - no more texting from me. I'm going to allow him to "be the man" so they say and at least fake the "i am the queen of dating" until I Make it lol cx What? You went from getting excited about meeting him to being upset that he's on POF instead of texting you to deleting his number? Maybe you don't need to slow down but take a break completely. All this over a guy you haven't even met.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 What? You went from getting excited about meeting him to being upset that he's on POF instead of texting you to deleting his number? Maybe you don't need to slow down but take a break completely. All this over a guy you haven't even met. I deleted his number so I didn't get the urge to retext... Not because I'm not interested lol Appreciate the advice everyone... I am really rubbish at dating but I have to learn someday right?
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 I deleted his number so I didn't get the urge to retext... Not because I'm not interested lol Appreciate the advice everyone... I am really rubbish at dating but I have to learn someday right? Well he sent me a text am 2:30 am saying "Wow, busy day, bit tipsy now! Sleep deep hey xxx" Which says to me hey I was too busy on pof to talk to you..: yep! That one has thrown cold water all over my craziness.
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