jmitchell Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I met this girl on Tinder which I've been using for casual meetups over the last few months which was the intention with this girl as well (at least on my part). However we've been on 5 dates in the last 2 weeks and have been speaking everyday. Arranging to meet up for the 6th at the weekend. We had sex on the 4th and have been acting "coupley" since then. Noticed she logs in to Tinder every day or so, but then so do I so no big deal there (I'm not currently dating anyone else but keeping my options open as I've been dicked about before). It's getting to the stage where I'm thinking about exclusivity but haven't been in a serious relationship since my breakup with my ex over a year ago. That relationship was 5 years long so I'm rusty with all this to say the least. I'm interested in a relationship with her but at the same time don't know how or even if I should bring it up? (Should add we're both late twenties so both pretty mature...)
PegNosePete Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I know this might be a strange concept but have you maybe considered talking to her about it? 1
Author jmitchell Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Definitely, I had half a mind to do it at the weekend but at the same time I keep thinking why rock the boat? I've been out of the serious stuff for a while, I'm not sure if 5 dates is too soon to be thinking about relationships/labels etc?
PegNosePete Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 It really depends on the person. Both you, and her. I've never been a fan of labels, never ever had that "talk" in my life and I've done just fine. So if you want to, then go for it, if not then don't... no need to over-think it. There's no "rules", just you and her.
preraph Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Why don't you just say something like, Hey, we've been on a few dates and I think it's been fun, and I don't really like to juggle women. How would you feel if we agreed to be exclusive and see how it goes? If she freaks out that you're wanting a commitment so soon, you can just minimize it and say, no, not like "going steady" but just see how it goes and then agree that if one or the other of us decides we want to go out with someone else, to let the other know so no one gets hurt. 1
BJP56 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Im in the same boat with you, take it slow, do not rush it, and yes communicate openly with her. Let things develop on there own.
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