Lyn77 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Long Story...slept with my guy friend three times over a 3 week period. Intense, incredible sex, we did everything, stayed the night together. He took care of me, cooked for me, cuddled...etc I really thought this would be the start of something wonderful, as we have known each other several years, however, it has been over a week since our last hookup and he won't answer my calls or texts. The problem is, a very sentimental necklace of mine broke and I forgot it at his house. I asked him to mail it to me, he replied stating, "Why Mail?" I replied back stating It is very important to me and I don't want it to get lost. He never answered me. I have heard through other friends (none of them know we have been sleeping together) that he is dating and meeting other girls, even last night he had a date. So obviously he isn't interested in a relationship with me, was probably just easy sex for him. The fact that he is ignoring me is enough for me to move on. I am a bit embarrased and don't want to call him again or text him, but I really need my necklace back. I've been thinking of a few short texts I could send, asking him again to mail it to me. This is not an attempt to win him over or anything. Any ideas? Or I also thought about texting him and saying, "Hey, can I swing by and grab my necklace real quick?" Thanks
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I would send him one more text with your address and tell him that he can either drop it off or mail it. Or that if he'd like you to come pick it up, to please get in touch to arrange a time. This way, if he just reeeeeeally doesn't want to talk to/see you again, he can just mail it. He'll have all the info he needs. "Hi ______. It's ______ again. I really need my necklace back. It was given to me by ____ and is an heirloom. If you don't want me to come pick it up, you can mail it to me at: (address). Thanks."
Mr Scorpio Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 If K&M's idea doesn't work, perhaps get one of your mutual friends to retrieve it?
CarrieT Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Mail him a self-addressed stamped padded envelope along with a short note requesting the necklace. That way all he has to do is put the necklace in the envelope and drop it in the mail. 3
stillafool Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Or you could ask for his address and mail him a prepaid, preaddressed envelope to send the necklace back to you. Please don't go over there and sleep with him again if you can't handle being FWBs. He is not serious about you. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You could stalk him, and the next time you see him with another girl, just approach them and say "hey can I get my necklace back, which I left at your place after we had sex?" 3
stillafool Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Or you could ask for his address and mail him a prepaid, preaddressed envelope to send the necklace back to you. Please don't go over there and sleep with him again if you can't handle being FWBs. He is not serious about you. Sorry Carrie, I said the same thing you did without reading your post first.
Author Lyn77 Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 You could stalk him, and the next time you see him with another girl, just approach them and say "hey can I get my necklace back, which I left at your place after we had sex?" I love this idea..but I guess I'm too respectful and old-fashioned to do it...LOL 1
Author Lyn77 Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 I guess I am going to send him a prepaid, preaddressed envelope...ridiculous I have to do this, almost like he's holding this necklace over my head or something? Not sure why..whatever his intentions, I am devastated over leaving it there. If I don't get it back this way, I am going right up to his door and demanding it!
MidwestUSA Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I guess I am going to send him a prepaid, preaddressed envelope...ridiculous I have to do this, almost like he's holding this necklace over my head or something? Not sure why..whatever his intentions, I am devastated over leaving it there. If I don't get it back this way, I am going right up to his door and demanding it! Actually, that would have been my first choice. Texting him and saying 'I need an exact time when you'll be home and it would be convenient for me to come by. I won't take up your time'. Who's to say he won't just throw an envelope to the side and ignore it? I doubt that he's holding it over your head, he's just not realizing how important it is to you. I'd rather not have something that meaningful getting put in the mail. What if he does a sloppy job of sealing the envelope?
Author Lyn77 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 Super excited! I texted him last night & said I will be there at 730 to get my necklace Got my necklace last night, now to move on with my life How funny a pair of my panties were there too... He asked me to "come in" haha, sorry *******.... 1
ascendotum Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 "Why Mail?" I took this to mean that its a suggestion that you can come over to his place again....to pick it up...and probably from his perspective hopefully a repeat performance from the previous times you were there. He is being a somewhat obtuse over this considering your his friend, but maybe he doesn't realize you called it quits on him. You did the smart thing considering and went & picked them up & also heading back home and torpedoing his plan. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Show up at his house. Knock on the door. When he answers say I just swung by to get my necklace. Get your necklace & leave. If you stay you will probably have sex again.
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