Shashasha Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I am so sick of this game- why cant people grow up and tell each other how they really feel?
pickflicker Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I am so sick of this game- why cant people grow up and tell each other how they really feel? They always text me the next day... If they're not texting you, that's all you need to know. Silence is your answer - no. So you just move onto the next prospect... 2
Author Shashasha Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 They always text me the next day... If they're not texting you, that's all you need to know. Silence is your answer - no. So you just move onto the next prospect... Lots of people say this but my dates have messaged me a week later? I cant really tell with this guy - he's flying off for work today and will only be back after a week...
pickflicker Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Lots of people say this but my dates have messaged me a week later? I cant really tell with this guy - he's flying off for work today and will only be back after a week... You should just set up a date with another person. Don't wait by the phone.
Author Shashasha Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 You should just set up a date with another person. Don't wait by the phone. Well - we didn't. what now?
David87 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I am so sick of this game- why cant people grow up and tell each other how they really feel? If the guy likes you, he would text you the next day. Me for example if I really like my date I text her the same night Works every time. 2
Emilia Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 If the guy likes you, he would text you the next day. Me for example if I really like my date I text her the same night Works every time. Guys usually text the same evening. I pretty much expect it when we had a good time, it's hard to wind down straight away without a final chat.
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I'm going to start a mind-blowing revolutionary movement: "Stop Texting - Start Talking!" Who's with me?? 6
Emilia Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I'm going to start a mind-blowing revolutionary movement: "Stop Texting - Start Talking!" Who's with me?? I think texts have their place. When I'm on my way home and he is doing the same after 3-4 hours together, a quick chit-chat to wind down over text is nice. Wouldn't want to talk on the phone then. The following day is different though.
David87 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I'm going to start a mind-blowing revolutionary movement: "Stop Texting - Start Talking!" Who's with me?? I feel you, but sometimes texting is so much fun than talking, besides you already talked on the date.
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Absolutely, texts have their place. I'm just of the opinion they shouldn't REplace talking, where talking would seem the obvious best choice.... 1
BC1980 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Years ago, we wouldn't have even asked this question. Now, we are all somehow obligated to text after a date just because we have the capability. I like texting as much as the next person though, so I'm just as guilty. To answer the question, I would think by that night or the next day. Otherwise, they aren't really that interested. Texting a week later means they are just passing time with you until something better comes along. 1
pickflicker Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Well - we didn't. what now? Set up another date with someone else. If he's not made his intentions clear, you're a free agent. 2
dontgo Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 It humors me that you are complaining that he is playing games and not being straight with his feelings... when that is exactly what you are doing also. Lots of women these days are the first to text after a first date when they see a second date in the future. Just send him a text along the lines of, "Thanks for ____ I had an awesome time :)" This will reinforce your gratitude for him taking you out and should cue him to plan numero dos. 3
Author Shashasha Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 It humors me that you are complaining that he is playing games and not being straight with his feelings... when that is exactly what you are doing also. Lots of women these days are the first to text after a first date when they see a second date in the future. Just send him a text along the lines of, "Thanks for ____ I had an awesome time :)" This will reinforce your gratitude for him taking you out and should cue him to plan numero dos. I DID do this - asking him how he was - he was having drinks with clients and the conversation ended there. Do I text him again?
organizedchaos Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I DID do this - asking him how he was - he was having drinks with clients and the conversation ended there. Do I text him again? No! Just be cool and see what happens. Or doesn't. Either way, life goes on. 1
Author Shashasha Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 No! Just be cool and see what happens. Or doesn't. Either way, life goes on. I coudnt resist and asked him how his holiday work is going! :S
pickflicker Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 I coudnt resist and asked him how his holiday work is going! :S You gotta play it cool! He's a GUY. He'll text you if he wants to. 1
Author Shashasha Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 You gotta play it cool! He's a GUY. He'll text you if he wants to. wont text anymore!!
SmartDude Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 OMG you texted him twice in a row without a reply. Its over now, break up. No contact! Seriously though, I have been texted before and I just didn't feel like answering yet. It might have been a busy day and I have no energy. Or maybe I was just in the middle of something. Even had a few times when I didn't want to reply right away because I was in a mood and knew my response would only be half hearted. But I am old school so my advice might be crap for you. Back in my day it was *ring ring* "Oh damn, answering machine...hang up quick!"
GemmaUK Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 For me it's either always that night or the next day. I haven't ever not had a text after a date (except for in the days when mobile phones didn't exist..) 1
Author Shashasha Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 OMG you texted him twice in a row without a reply. Its over now, break up. No contact! Seriously though, I have been texted before and I just didn't feel like answering yet. It might have been a busy day and I have no energy. Or maybe I was just in the middle of something. Even had a few times when I didn't want to reply right away because I was in a mood and knew my response would only be half hearted. But I am old school so my advice might be crap for you. Back in my day it was *ring ring* "Oh damn, answering machine...hang up quick!" haha, the first time I messaged there was a reply! but the convo kinda ended like that... Hmm, I don't know. I wont text anymore! Thanks for your advice
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