trust Posted January 27, 2005 Posted January 27, 2005 just curious - does anyone have any ways to rebuild trust? my live-in boyfriend and i are in a bit of a rift right now. he didn't cheat, but he did lie. his lies hurt because i am really big on 'trust'. now everytime he says something i don't know whether or not to believe it, and i hate it. he knows he's done me wrong and i don't deserve it and he is doing everything possible to fix it. i was just wondering if anyone has any good suggestions on re-building trust? if anyone has been in my situation (i'm sure many have), what did yall have to do to overcome it together?
deepfused Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Please take this as just opinion. I am 30 and never been married because of the word "TRUST" I guess it all depends how much love is there you have for him. just in my honest opinion: I would NEVER be able to trust him again, I put my heart and sole into a relationship knowing that my man cheated on me trying to earn that TRUST back and making things work plus we had had a child on the way. He took my LOVE and TRUST for him totally for granted and continued to cheat. If he really loved you then he should have never went over that line regardless, and when he did IF he loved you as much as he says he does' then he should have confessed ASAP to you knowing his mistake and wanting to keep that trust with you and ya'lls relationship. now that I older and I will admit I have been faithful and the unfaithful so I have experienced both sides, but when I did get caught doing the wrong-- I admitted my wrong doing and we parted even though he was still willing to try to make the relationship work. Once that trust has been broken to me personally it GONE! the decision is totally up to you dear. do you want to keep putting you emotions through the worry that he playin every time he leaves or out of you site? if so good luck!!
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