python23 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) So I've posted a few times on this forum. I never seem to meet genuine girls or girls that want anything more than friendship. I've been online dating for a while and very few want to get intimate. But I messaged a girl on Sunday, we chatted for a short while on the site then I got her number. We've talked for quite a lot since but even the day after she was saying things like "baby" and wish you were here for cuddles" and even things like " honestly babe if you want me to stop talking to other guys I will do, anything for you" I've not even met the girl yet!!! Last night it got abit naughty and a few texts were sent. I won't go Into detail but you know what I'm talking about. I was receiving some really explicit texts about what she likes and what turns her on and what she wants to do to me. So we've arranged to meet up on Saturday for a few drinks. But then tells me to calm the naughty texts out because she's not that kind of girl and that nothing's going to happen for at least 3 months. She rang me tonight and told me how she " wished I was there baby for cuddles" What game is this girl playing? I'm abit put off by all this if I'm honest. Im not sure how to act with this one. Is she abit weird. She's acting it Edited March 18, 2014 by python23
BlueIris Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Can’t tell since you haven’t reported what you’ve said and done. Cancel the date and stop communicating with her if you aren’t sincerely interested in her. jmo. 1
Author python23 Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) I am interested but her behaviour seems strange. She's even said I can stay over on Saturday but on the sofa. She told me that she's not interested in sex with random guys and wants to meet the right one before she gets intimate and then tells me that I've got to respect this. So obviously I agree and tell her I want to meet the right girl too. But two minutes later asks if she can ask me something. Then asks me if I like arse play, and that she loves playing with guys arses and wondered if she can play with mine. You've got to admit. That's abit weird considering I've not met the girl Edited March 18, 2014 by python23
Phoe Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Her behavior is definitely a bit over the top, I'd say 2
BlueIris Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Still not reporting the entire conversation…. You can never assess if someone’s words or actions are weird until you hear what the other side of the conversation is. Think of it this way: “This guy got out of his car and shot me!!” (=horrible) or… “I started smashing his car with a baseball bat, yelling I was going to kill him and his kids, and as I started to go toward the back seat where his kids were, this guy got out of his car and shot me!!” Context is EVERYTHING! 3
Author python23 Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 Well it's quite simple. Two people were getting abit cheeky. She asked me what turns me on and I asked her what turns her on. We exchanged a few pictures. She told me what she wanted to do to me but once I said the same she told me how I need to chill out as she's looking to meet the right guy and that she doesn't want me to turn out like all the other guys and that sex won't be happening for at least 3 months, but two minutes later proceeds to tell me how much she wants to be f****d in the a**e You've got to admit this is strange. Even the " wish you were here to keep me warm baby" is crazy. Don't you agree??
mtber75 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 To be honest, I think your dealing with a call girl... Any girl that get sexually explicit before even meet you is a plan HO! 1
pteromom Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 She's horny, but she's scared of being used. Pretty obvious. Through her texts, you get to see both sides pretty plainly. She does seem overly invested in you considering you haven't met. Could be a "clinger" red flag. Too early to tell. I would go out with her and see what happens. If she comes across as psycho in person, you don't have to see her again. 3
Author python23 Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 Thanks. I think I will take her out on Saturday. She's not even asked for my surname. She says she's not on Facebook and she doesn't know where I live so cutting her off will be quite easy if it goes tits up after the first date 1
mangetout Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 It's so easy to get carried away when you text. I think the two of you are doing the classic cyber sex which many people seem to get caught up in with OLD. Meet her and see what she is like in person. 1
BlueIris Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Okay, well, if she’s initiating the sex talk, I guess she wants to talk sex with you. I have no idea if that is weird. I’m old and I cut off OLD (haha) guys who do that. But why in heaven’s name are you going to go out with her if you’re getting a bad vibe about her? You don’t have to answer (of course), but if you’re going to do it, may the words, “baby daddy,” STDs, and “child support” help you keep your wits about you.
Standard-Fare Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 This just makes me wonder what YOUR issues are that you're going for a girl who's displaying this kind of behavior. She sounds truly unhinged and unstable. The sex talk is one thing, because if you guys are into that stuff, who cares. But it's just WEIRD to be forcing that false emotional intimacy (i.e. calling you "baby, talking about "cuddles," making demands of you) with a stranger from the Internet. Again, I have more questions about you than her after reading this. 1
Author python23 Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 I don't mind talking sex, it's a refreshing change after some of the girls that have friend zoned me in recent weeks. But all I'm worried about is the fact that she's talking to me as if I have been with her 6 months. If I spoke like her to 99% of girls they would run a mile and rightly so. If she is serious about not sleeping with anyone for 3 months then why the hell bring up her sex life and what turns her on with someone she's not met yet?? I'm a normal guy, I'd like a relationship. I wouldn't turn sex down if I knew that's all it was and for the right girl I'd wait. But you've got to admit, talking like she has been doing to a guy off the Internet is abit strange. Can you imagine what she's like with an actual boyfriend? She's even said things like " I think me and you have something special" How can anyone say that to a stranger they've not met? I'm staying away.
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