michele4 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I have been divorced only 3 months but during that time left the place I was living with the ex, moved home at my parent's insistence, and started a new job. My issue is I am so lonely. I have always been very shy and introverted so it is difficult for me to meet people. My ex was very extroverted so we always had tons of friends around. Now he is gone, along with several of the friendships, and the few friends I had left are several hundred miles away. I am from the area I am now living in originally but have not lived here in several years. I maybe have 3 friends here, one of whom I see regularly. I feel bad because I am leaning on her quite heavily as I am depressed and know no one else. She has even told me, although as kindly as possible, that I need to try and meet people. I know there is meetup and other types of forced group situations but I honestly don't know if I could handle that. I prefer things to happen much more organically and in a smaller setting as being a lone person in a large group gives me anxiety. I am also concerned as the breakup was not amicable (he cheated and then proceeded to badmouth me to everyone behind my back)and several of his friends live in the area that I have moved to and I do not want to run into them. I am in my mid to late 20s with no children and am just so unsure of what to do (and am concerned about the social stigma of being divorced at this age). I am a nice person just very very quiet but would love to make some friends.... advice?
L1ght Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) I have been divorced only 3 months but during that time left the place I was living with the ex, moved home at my parent's insistence, and started a new job. My issue is I am so lonely. I have always been very shy and introverted so it is difficult for me to meet people. My ex was very extroverted so we always had tons of friends around. Now he is gone, along with several of the friendships, and the few friends I had left are several hundred miles away. I am from the area I am now living in originally but have not lived here in several years. I maybe have 3 friends here, one of whom I see regularly. I feel bad because I am leaning on her quite heavily as I am depressed and know no one else. She has even told me, although as kindly as possible, that I need to try and meet people. I know there is meetup and other types of forced group situations but I honestly don't know if I could handle that. I prefer things to happen much more organically and in a smaller setting as being a lone person in a large group gives me anxiety. I am also concerned as the breakup was not amicable (he cheated and then proceeded to badmouth me to everyone behind my back)and several of his friends live in the area that I have moved to and I do not want to run into them. I am in my mid to late 20s with no children and am just so unsure of what to do (and am concerned about the social stigma of being divorced at this age). I am a nice person just very very quiet but would love to make some friends.... advice? Meet new people from around the world or locally online through a social media app like palringo. When you do though make absolutely sure you text, voice message, phonecall(through Skype for free) and Skype video call the people so you can actually verify that they are who they say they are before building a friendship. Its a brave new world out there and making friends is easy if you go about it the right way. Good luck. Edited March 18, 2014 by L1ght
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