Sportsguy8 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) So basically me and my ex were extremely happy for 2.5 years. We just celebrated our 2.5 year anniversary. She would say for the last 2 years that she's literally never found anybody as good as me nor will she ever love someone as much as me. We were talking about marriage in the future, kids in the future, etc. we had a very deep connection where we were also the best of friends. She was so close with me and my family that she was in the room with me when my father passed away and was very close to him. She had a hard time growing up. She wasn't popular, didnt have very many friends thru high school or her first few years of college and her parents got divorced. She was pretty depressed on the inside. I helped her become happy again, and brought her to the university I went to as she transferred there and went to school with me. Everything was great. Now, I grauduated last year and she still has the rest of this year to finish her bachelors. Last year, I told her to join a sorority to get friends that she's always wanted and never had so she did. Now, I live an hour away and she lives in the sorority house and she feels like her life is changing. She parties and drinks socially but not a lot at all. She's the type of girl to sit at home and watch a movie and drink wine. She's a very sweet girl and never really got around or hooked up with tons of guys by any means. 2 months ago, we got in a small argument, and we had a small rough patch of a month or two, but we were both generally happy. We took a break and at the end of the break she said she needed more time. During the short break, she would text me randomly saying she loved me and thanks for giving her time. And 2 days later she called and said that "god is telling her to be alone right now as she doesn't know what she wants and needs to be alone to find herself." she seemed very unemotional and didnt cry and says she hasn't had time to think about "us." FYI She is extremely emotional about us the entire relationship. She also just changed her career path and wants to figure out what to do with that too. And, now she has tons of friends and says she wants to have fun with friends for once in her life, so she let me go. She said "she's not sure what her future holds but it still could be with me." It was a calm breakup but I was really upset and hurt. Now, she is posting everything on Facebook and Instagram of her partying, which makes me angry as it's the 100% opposite of who she is. We went LC. I returned her stuff cuz I was mad and she called asking why I returned stuff as they were memories. She got a tattoo a week later which she said shed never get. Two weeks later I sent her flowers saying congrats on her internship and she texted me saying how beautiful they were and it was so sweet of me to get her them. She posted on Facebook for about 6 hours of a line in a song basically saying she has this huge smile on, but it's the best she can fake and that she misses me. Then she deleted it. Now, 1.5 months after Bu and 1 week of no contact, she texted me asking how I am and had a brief convo. Then, a few days ago she texted me a pic of her new haircut and said she wanted to show it to me. I'm so confused whether she still loves me or not cuz I 100% still do. I want her to figure her stuff out so bad, but I can't help but think of her partying and clubbing especially since she's a gorgeous girl and almost model status. Should I go completely NC until she figures everything out? I deleted her on all social media. I keep telling myself that I deserve her to come running back to me if she really thinks and loves me cuz I treated her awesomely for 2.5 years. I never really completely chased her, except the day of the breakup as I'm giving her the time she says she needs and am respecting it. I'm still hurting deeply on the inside but I'm doing myself as best as I can and doing better 2 months post BU. I do want to get back with her, but I want her to chase me after all the pain she put me thru. Edited March 18, 2014 by Sportsguy8
Author Sportsguy8 Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 Any advice? Keep nc? Would me reaching out to her be in my interest to be able to reconcile? She said she never said we couldn't talk.
KaliLove Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 NC and delete her everywhere. Do not reach out, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
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