BikerAccnt Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Are we reading the same thread? She never claims to have explicitly told him no before they had sex. She says that she told him that she felt uncomfortable. You know how many women say that during sex? I'm thick. 90% of the girls who i've had sex with have had complaints. Complaining and giving instruction to slow down is NOT the same thing as explicitly telling someone that you don't want to have sex. She says she told him "several times don't do that" AFTER he had already started having sex with her. You know what that means? She wasn't saying "no don't have sex with me" she was saying "no don't be so rough" She was unsure about whether she should have sex with him in the first place, she allowed him to continue anyway (women are not helpless and she could have stopped him), he got too rough which she didn't like, now she is regretting having sex with him. THAT IS NOT THE SAME THING AS RAPE. STOP TRYING TO OVER DRAMATIZE THINGS AND ACT LIKE IT IS. I'm sorry, yes it is. If someone tells me they are uncomfortable doing something during sex, you stop. PERIOD. Doesn't matter what it is. You don't then try to "convince" them by having sex in a different less uncomfortable manner. 90% of the women you've had sex with have had complaints? That should tell you something right there. 7
Els Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 He ended up having sex with me and I just lied there on the bed and I tried to tell him I was uncomfortable but he would stop a bit and when I would feel bad he would say, "okay!" and keep going. I'm not sure exactly what this means and what the legal classification of what he did to you is (in your particular jurisdiction), but I think it's pretty obvious that you need to get out of there, stat. What is holding you back? Do you have somewhere to go to for the meantime to privately sort out your thoughts and prepare to move out? Do you have a close friend or family member around to talk to? 1
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