opinionlover Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 So, my ex and I parted 7 months ago. I ****ed up.. massively and she said that she couldn't take me back! I chased her, endlessly, sometimes succeeding, sometimes failing, for two months, it was emotionally draining for both of us and it came to a halt in November. Since then I decided to move on and in doing so focused on the reasons we shouldn't be together, I got myself out there and started seeing someone else, briefly. It was a rebound. In this time we spoke on and off... and decided to stay friends. I went to see her two weeks ago as friends but ended up falling for her again, massively, which i made her aware of, but she said she still couldn't be with me bacuase of what happened. She also said that we shouldn't see eachother anymore as it was obviously dangerous (we were obviously still attracted to one another). Since then i have been an open book and instead of trying to deny the relationship was any good have done some soul searching... and realised how much I love her, and have finally taken full responsibility for my errors, I ended my rebound relationship promptly, the day after I saw her, and she is aware of this. She knows that I want to be with her and i know that she cares about me. We have been speaking lots over the last week.. and she know's that I am busy until thursday but has asked if we can go out for dinner on thursday night... what does this mean??? I have a HUGE gut feeling that this is the start of a reconciliation... but i am scared.. scared encase that when I see her, i discover that it isn't. I think it will break me. I know that she knows this too and she knows how much Im head over heals for her and that she wouldn't want to hurt me, which is why my gut is telling me that she wants to reconcile. but.. what if she doesn't. Should I play it cool.. Should I be romantic... Should I let her take the lead and not mention a reconciliation... what would you do?
David87 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Go for it. Be cool and friendly, don't bring up the reconciliation part. Don't get your hopes up because she is just testing the waters at this point.
jphcbpa Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 how long were you NC? how did the reconnect take place? Just be your fun, happy and centered self. Go into it know you can live without her if that be the case. Focus no the moment. Do not put all your cards on the table. Mirror her as far as depth of sharing.
VeronicaRoss Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You're not saying what you did to massively mess up but the important thing is: have you been taking serious action like therapy or something like that to work on yourself to reduce the chance of it happening again?
Waz Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Just do it already. Don't be afraid of what will come out of this. Even if it isn't what you expected, you will know it, it's better than wondering and being in a limbo.
Simon Phoenix Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I'm going to say delay this until you get your head straight. Freaking out is not going to work in your favor and I'm afraid that you are going to freak out at this dinner. You need to relax.
EuTuBrute Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Dont do it...just like you 7 months after the break up my ex asked to meet up. What I got? She cancelled plans with me, and the pain of my heart broken again.
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