lee_daniel Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) ok...so this girl that i'm completely in love with hurt me twice and i still tried to make things work... we started off great and she seemed to love me but about 2 months later....she went to some guys house and apparently did some stuff...i told her that she can forget everything and stopped all contact with her then she added me back on bbm and told me she cant live without me and that i still make her smile when she sees me...i told her that i will try and make things work because i really do love her and so said so done...i tried and we got back together and were happier than ever.... then about 3 or 4 months later we were happy and she said she was invited to go to a pool party...i wanted to tell her no but i didnt wanna seem like a control freak so i said 'ok have fun' then she said that her ex bf was gonna be there so i said 'i'm not comfortable with that' but i trusted her and she went....a few days later i heard she said to someone that she was just using me to get what she wants and that she only loves her ex bf....i was hurt and told her she was a terrible person and said mean things to her because i heard it from more than one source and even her best friend who i spoke to told me she said it...we broke up after that but i still loved her...she came back from chicago and told me she had some stuff to tell me...she told me she had cheated on me with her ex at the beginning of the relationship and that she felt guilty.... i asked what about the pool party and she didnt want to respond....i told her that i really love her and i wanna make things work out however and i tried to make it work...wrote her poems, carried her out, just trying to make her happy.....but its like i made it worse because she said she doesnt deserve it....but i said she does and if she tries i'll try and even if she doesnt i'll still try...she didnt want to spend time with me at school or anything anymore because her friends say she should leave me alone cuz im a good guy and she has done enough damage.....she asked me to be her friend and i said no i cant....so i stopped talking to her and told her i cant be her friend cuz i dont want to be there wen she moves on...and now she has moved on to someone who she used to talk to when we were together..... i mean she told me that i wasnt aggressive with her and that i gave into her too easily.....i didnt know that girls wanted to be treated like shes with an *******.....she says she still loves me but doesnt look at me as a bf anymore.... Edited March 18, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Strength in Healing Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I read the way it works somewhere is girls want to be treated bad until their 30's when they mature. It's kind of funny because it's purported that girls mature faster. Maybe they mature faster to a certain stage, then lag behind all the way until their 30's, lol. But I can tell from your post... you were a doormat. How on Earth and why on Earth would she respect you when you write her poems after she cheats on you many times and said she's using you. Sounds like abuse syndrome, you have been degraded and want to prove your worth to her/yourself/others. Get dignity and walk the hell away. And tell her she's worthless on the way out. 1
Author lee_daniel Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 well to be honest.... i did feel like a doormat because she always used to disrespect the car i drove and she never picked up her trash out my car....i spent 200 dollars on a gift for her for christmas and she got me nothing...she started hanging out with my cousin (who is a guy) and now she is with one of his friends... she goes to his house with her new bf and idk how she can feel comfortable with that.....i really did love her and now...i realize she didnt really love me....all she can say is that i was an amazing person with a beautiful heart and i deserve better than her...i guess i just have to move on
Author lee_daniel Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 would really appreciate if more people here would give me their views.....i'm really down about this and my friends just think i'm stupid because i didnt listen to them....so.......it might sound creepy but this site and you guys are all i got right now so please help
KaliLove Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 She sounds like she's not a very nice person. I would just move on if I was you.
GorillaTheater Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 You were a doormat. How can she respect you if you won't respect yourself? Respecting yourself doesn't mean being a dick, it means you have appropriate boundaries and don't deal with people who don't respect those boundaries. You rewarded bad behavior, and therefore got more of it. This expreience sucked, no doubt, but learn from it.
somedude81 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 You treated her far better than she deserved. Frankly why do you even want to be a with a girl who cheated on you? That just meant you were nothing to her.
Author lee_daniel Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 i honestly dont know why i treated her so well....because she used to talk about her ex around me and stuff....i guess i was blinded by false love that i thought was there.....she moved on within a month so....i guess i never meant that much to her
Trep Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Run far and run fast. She cheated on you on multiple occasions and then you begged her to get back together. You've pretty much shown her that it's okay for her to cheat on you cause you'll always come crawling back.
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