calledm Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) This weekend I was visiting my now ex-gf. We are in a long distance relationship for one month in which she was very stressed. In this month she wasn't calling oftenly, and a couple of time she got very angry with me about some misunderstanding. This weekend I was visiting her for first time and she was very angry, and she said she wanted to break up with me, and I said ok and she got angry because she said I don't care about anything. She keeps saying we don't understand each other and I don't listen. I stayed at her place and we shared some time together and she was in a better mood and we were really closed. But I have to call my cousin because he was worried and she went to the supermarket and when she came back she was really angry because I left her on her own and I was not worried about her. She began again to be angry and mean, and next day I couldn't stand it anymore and I left her place because I told her I was doing my best to treat her right and she was treating me like an *******. She called me 20 minutes later to see where I was going to sleep, I think she wanted me to give up and return, but I'm not sure. So I think we are not together anymore. Why did she dumped me, because I was very in love and too nice to her, o because she couldn't get what she expected from me? Should I try to fix things? Edited March 18, 2014 by calledm
Zimber Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 (edited) This weekend I was visiting my now ex-gf. We are in a long distance relationship for one month in which she was very stressed. In this month she wasn't calling oftenly, and a couple of time she got very angry with me about some misunderstanding. This weekend I was visiting her for first time and she was very angry, and she said she wanted to break up with me, and I said ok and she got angry because she said I don't care about anything. She keeps saying we don't understand each other and I don't listen. I stayed at her place and we shared some time together and she was in a better mood and we were really closed. But I have to call my cousin because he was worried and she went to the supermarket and when she came back whe was really angry because I left her on her own and I was not worried about her. She began again to be angry and mean, and next day I couldn't stand it anymore and I left her place because I told her I was doing my best to treat her right and she was treating me like an *******. Whe called me 20 minutes later to see where I was going to sleep, I think whe wanted me to give up and return, but I'm not sure. So I think we are not together anymore. Why did she dumped me, because I was very in love and too nice to her, o because she couldn't get what she expected from me? Should I try to fix things? No, don't try to fix things. How old is this woman? I wouldn't have answered this thread had it not been for the LDR and shopping as I would have thought she was a teen. You're being treated poorly (cultural disclaimer ... from my point of view). This is not a gender statement at all, but it's important that your partner knows that you are willing to walk away if disrespected/abused/betrayed/lied to (whatever you cannot handle) .... If you had run back to her, and keep doing it, this is your life friend ... an emotional roller coaster where you never are sure what just happened but are constantly chasing after girl with fresh cut flowers and your heart on your sleeve. That's no way to live ... or love. Go no contact. Find a local girl if that's possible. This is just traveling for pain, meaningless accusations and drama. (again, cultural disclaimer ....). Z Edited March 18, 2014 by Zimber
David87 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 So many red flags here. First of all this was a LDR of just one month and you already had a couple of fights. Then you meet for the very first time and guess what you get in to an argument again. This is to much , the relationship is toxic and doomed from the beginning. Don't try to fix anything because there's nothing to fix here. Find a better girl and maybe one that lives near you.
Author calledm Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 Sorry, I was with her for 6 months and 1 month of LDR. She had a previous relationship where she has told me whe was very angry because he didn't love her and strung her along.
David87 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Sorry, I was with her for 6 months and 1 month of LDR. She had a previous relationship where she has told me whe was very angry because he didn't love her and strung her along. This doesn't change the fact that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and that last fight was a little immature. If you feel that you did something wrong to upset her then apologise, but other that that, don't beg or cry etc..
erklat Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 So basically she went shopping groceries and household stuff while you were doing what? Girls in ldr tend to think that little time you have on your disposal should be used to the fullest. It depends why she went alone. If she went shopping for household on her own while you laid on the couch playing Playstation then she has plenty of reasons to be mean.
Author calledm Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 So basically she went shopping groceries and household stuff while you were doing what? Girls in ldr tend to think that little time you have on your disposal should be used to the fullest. It depends why she went alone. If she went shopping for household on her own while you laid on the couch playing Playstation then she has plenty of reasons to be mean. No, we were returning from a day trip and she had to buy a few things and I had to call my cousin but I ran out of battery, so she suggested me to go to her place and she will come back later.
lvroflife Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Word of advice when dealing with LDR. Do your research on the town so you can have your own thing to do and won't be up under each other. Rent your own car so you can have that space.
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