She asked who she should put as her man crush Monday

[cruepain]

Its one of those stupid Internet things. She put on Facebook and said lastmminute man crush Monday?

 

I'm her boyfriend and she's going to put that. I should be that automatic crush. I'm very pissd and am wanting to say something.

 

Only two people replied.. A girl and her cousin and she never did put one but why say that?

[GoreSP]

You said it; it's a stupid internet thing.

[daisybuchanan55]

Man crush Monday is about celebrities. Relax...she was probably choosing between Ryan Gosling and Zac Efron.

 

Trust me, you have nothing to worry about. And if you're still mad, tell her how you feel, but prepared to never look at a female celebrity in a "she's so hot" kind of way ever again.

 

It goes both ways!!

[Stay]

You have to accept the fact that there will always be someone better looking and that's all it is. Embrace it is just about the only thing you can do, getting jealous over something so small will just make you less attractive.

[cruepain]

To me it seemed like she was saying who wants to be my mcm

[lovemadness]

I wouldn't worry about it

[JamesM]

Personally, I think it says more about her than about you. The question is...is this the type of woman you want to spend your life with?

 

I have friends on FB...married woman...who post these adoring posts about male celebrities. The comments are almost sexual in nature, and are about male stars in their 30s and 40s or even 20s, while the women are in their 40s, 50s, and more. I find it actually kinda pathetic. It makes these women look strange and it disrespects their husbands IMO.

 

My wife does not and would not do such a thing.

 

My question always is...what if I as a man began posting such comments about female celebrities in their 20s, 30s, or 40s? How would that make me look and how would my wife feel? Would I look like a pervert if I began making flirty comments about the physique of Britney Spears (example) or some other star? One of my absolute favorite female stars is almost 30 and gorgeous IMO. My wife knows it. But if I began posting her pic on my FB page and commenting about her butt (as women do about the male celebrities) or other aspects of her figure, then what kind of feedback would I get?

 

I highly doubt I would get "likes" on my post.

 

So my comment to you is DON'T forget it. Decide if this is something you can live with or not. And if it truly bothers you, then ask her to discontinue and explain why it bothers you. If she sees it as no big deal and doesn't understand how it disrespects you and her love for you, then ask how she would feel if you did the same.

 

If it were my girlfriend or wife, then it would bother me not just because of my feelings but also how it makes her look.

 

Just my opinion.

[Jethro]

Insecurity is unattractive. Insecurity regarding a Facebook post goes WAYYYY beyond unattractive. It's stupid. Don't let it get to you.

[ThatMan]

All I know that I ditched one girlfriend because I thought she was stupid for doing that. The usual facebook/tumblr nonsense is just another celebrity fandom. Try not to take it seriously because it isn't malicious. It's just something that I personally find very pathetic and unattractive. There's a reason why only two people would go out of their way to even acknowledge her in the first place.

[hasaquestion]

Why is it so "disrespectful" to comment on attractive celebrities?

 

Justin Timberlake is hotter than I am. Big f-ing deal. I'll be the first to admit it.

 

If your ego is so fragile that you need someone to constantly lie to you and tell you that you are the most beautiful thing in the universe then you've got bigger problems.

[JamesM]

Personally, if it is insecurity, then one wonders why she would do it knowing how it makes you feel.

 

If it is not, then it shows who she is.

 

Again, start posting comments on who you latest woman crush is for the week and describe why and what you see so hot about her.

 

Guarantee that it will get results...good or bad.

 

It is not about believing that you are better looking or should be the only crush. It is about an allegedly grown woman (or should be) posting "crushes" like a teeny bopper.

[JamesM]

To quote you from another thread, I think I get the basis of your concerns....

 

I went through this. I'm 25 gf(or ex) is 19. She hadn't been in a relationship for a few years, mostly just slept around.

 

got together and hit it off well. 7 months in, i found out she almost cheated on me 1 month into our relationship. seemed at times she thought there was something better out there for her. she ended up saying we needed to break up so she could figure out what she wanted because i want someone who can commit and she isn't ready.

 

fast forward 5 months we continued hanging out nothing changed, neither of us slept with anyone else, and we seem to be back together and she is talking marriage

[ThatMan]

It is not about believing that you are better looking or should be the only crush. It is about an allegedly grown woman (or should be) posting "crushes" like a teeny bopper.

 

That's exactly why the stereotypical obese tumblr fangirl is pathetic. I'm not going to date anyone who is beneath me. That includes teenagers who never quite managed to grow up. Search for equals and not people who do stupid things while completely disregarding how you feel.

 

I remember from earlier that you've been cheated on but I didn't want to comment. If your current girlfriend knows that you've been cheated on and that stupid things like man crushes are shown in a different context for you then she needs to stop. It's also okay if she's unfamiliar with your experiences and she doesn't need to know. Just give her a heads up that you don't appreciate these antics. Ask her to knock it out.

Edited March 18, 2014 by ThatMan
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