Bantosm Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I've gotten into shape recently. I lost my flab and added muscle. In doing that it has given me a boost in my confidence. I went from thinking I was ugly to now I feel that I'm a pretty good looking guy. It appears that my confidence in my looks is now over bloated which maybe even worse than thinking I was ugly. I've been getting more looks from women but every time I approach and talk to them I find that they have a boyfriend. I've been having the hardest time finding single women that I am attracted to. Recently, one of my good friends recommended that I take a look at a friend she added to facebook from her work. I looked and she's very pretty. I added her as a friend and she accepted my request. I then I wrote her telling her a little bit about me. She has that she is single on her page. I was fully expecting that she would write me back a few messages and maybe even include her phone number. I check my facebook and found that she read my message in the middle of the night and didn't even reply back, so much for making conversation.
Chalkdust89 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 What did you write in the message to her? She could've read it while she was half asleep and decided she'd respond at a later time. It takes me a long time to write a thoughtful response to someone, so I might look at the message once or twice before responding. I personally dislike that you can see when people read your messages; it has caused a lot of unnecessary drama in my life!! Again, I don't know what you wrote in your message, but just because you're both single doesn't mean that she has to automatically give her phone number to you. I don't give my number to people until after I've talked to them for awhile. Why don't you ask your friend to put in a good word for you?
Imported Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Good deal OP. I guess this means you can go back to eating cheeseburgers and pizza everyday and playing video games all the time. Thank God for porn!
Author Bantosm Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 What did you write in the message to her? She could've read it while she was half asleep and decided she'd respond at a later time. It takes me a long time to write a thoughtful response to someone, so I might look at the message once or twice before responding. I personally dislike that you can see when people read your messages; it has caused a lot of unnecessary drama in my life!! Again, I don't know what you wrote in your message, but just because you're both single doesn't mean that she has to automatically give her phone number to you. I don't give my number to people until after I've talked to them for awhile. Why don't you ask your friend to put in a good word for you? I just thanked her for making the decision to add me when she didn't know me. I told her I used to work at the same place. I mentioned my friend who said to add her. I mentioned that the main reason I added her was because she's beautiful and I mentioned that she probably had several guys trying to get a date with her already. I told her who I was, how I was connected and I even gave her a compliment. My friends is not that good of friends, so she probably couldn't do any more than be a reference. I figured she would reply a few message at the very least, but maybe my message came out wrong.
Chalkdust89 Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I mentioned that the main reason I added her was because she's beautiful and I mentioned that she probably had several guys trying to get a date with her already. Other girls might disagree, but things like this always make me feel a little uncomfortable, regardless of how well-intentioned they are. This kind of stuff makes it sound like you're just interested in having sex with her. I would have asked her something about herself to start a conversation, to get to know her and acknowledge that she has more worth than just her pretty face.
Author Bantosm Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 Other girls might disagree, but things like this always make me feel a little uncomfortable, regardless of how well-intentioned they are. This kind of stuff makes it sound like you're just interested in having sex with her. I would have asked her something about herself to start a conversation, to get to know her and acknowledge that she has more worth than just her pretty face. Yeah, I see what you mean. When I wrote the message I was sure it was going to get the conversation started, but after reading what you said I may have shot my luck with this girl with one message. I'm good at flirting, bad at dating and it appears that I'm terrible at online conversations.
Chalkdust89 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Hey, don't be so hard on yourself! Any experience is good experience as long as you learn from your mistakes. If you need help writing a message, run it by us on the forum and we can give some constructive criticism.
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