dmorr112 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Kind of new here. Could use some advise. So I started met this girl shortly after the holidays. She came to one of my intramural basketball games. We talked for about a week on FB before she said she would like to go out. She gave me her number and we went out for coffee that weekend. We kept up communication for another week or two. She then informed me one night over text that she would be leaving for Boston for six months for work and wanted just to be friends. I agreed. Over the next month or so it got kind of confusing. The conversation continued ( phone calls, texts). After meeting her at church one Sunday she ask me to have lunch with her family. She ask me to go out a week later and I ask her out the following week and she agreed. After our last date I kind of just threw this question out there: "If you weren't going to Boston then what?" She replied "Well, I really like you, so I would want to stay here, continue seeing you and see where all this is going. How do you feel?" I told here that I felt the same way, "I really like you." Now, I told myself early on not to get attached. Shes leaving and that's it. Well I kind of got attached. I really like this girl and don't know how to handle the situation. Conversation has been so so the past couple of weeks. We text a few times a week. I've only tried to call twice, but I got no answer. Do I just sit back and play it cool and see what happens over the next 5 months? I really believe i'm over thinking this. Have kind of let things go the over the past week thinking I have been moving to fast. Is there anything I can do at this point?
Author dmorr112 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 I'm in Kentucky. So about a 12 hour drive.
Gaeta Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I think she is trying to distance herself to smooth the blow of leaving. Sounds like you would be ready to deal with the distance for the next months? You know 12 hours away isn't that bad, better then her going to another country, by air it's what? 1h30 flight and 6 months go by really quickly. If you feel that she is worth the wait then tell her how you feel, tell her you have grown beyond being just friends and you want to visit her and carry this relationship till her return.
Author dmorr112 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Thanks for the reply. I want to tell her how I feel. Just not sure how to go about it. My main problem is that she won't return my calls. I believe this girl really likes me and she just got a little scared knowing she was leaving. Not really sure of my next move.
Author dmorr112 Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 If I do communicate how I feel, that's like putting all your cards on the table right?
Gaeta Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 If I do communicate how I feel, that's like putting all your cards on the table right? Yes but who dares nothing gains nothing. If it's a no at least you can move on with closure, better than wait in the background and she comes back with someone else.
Gaeta Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 ...and send her an email? You must have her on FB as well.
Author dmorr112 Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 I do have her FB. It's just putting how I feel into words.
Author dmorr112 Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 I mailed her a nice card today. Just didn't feel like an email or FB seemed right. Got my feelings out. Feels kind of good. Now the waiting game.
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