Snow101 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Broseph, you are getting played like a fiddle. Like others said, she is really taking her time cruising down the cake and eat it too lane and sampling everyting at the counter. How can you hear about this other guy and not boil with rage? Me thinks milady doth protest too much.
hestheone66 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 OP, are you a jealous person? if you are, well then I understand the advice that most of the posters have provided. I look at it another way. if you love and honour who she is, you may be able to enter a polyamorous relationship. Not all people are capable of monogamy, and it is completely irrational to suggest that being 'in love' with someone is the only reason you would have sex with them. I'm sure the people who are posting that 'she doesn't respect you' etc have from time to time, had sex with people that aren't full on in love with. Look at it from the point of view that you may be with a free spirit who enjoys sex with more than one person. She had the decency to be open about it with you, she did respect you. She broke up with you so she could pursue it, and then was honest with you about what she was doing. But like I said at first, if you are a jealous/possessive person, you will not be able to cope with this and you need to walk away. Eg in our society, while relationships outside the pair bond are frowned upon, imagine if we were allowed to be possessive on the other relationships that our SOs have. Eg some women feel jealous and insecure when their husbands spend time with their mates... but they don't automatically say it's because they don't love their wives... boyfriends are sometimes jealous about the close emotional intimacy between women's friends, but they understand that it is not because their wife loves them less. In our lives we meet people who each bring different things into our lives, help us grown. Instead of creating barriers to such growth, why not at least think about how including others can enrich our lives. So many problems stem from our insecurities.. analyse before a knee jerk reaction.
Author Thatone4 Posted March 20, 2014 Author Posted March 20, 2014 OP, are you a jealous person? if you are, well then I understand the advice that most of the posters have provided. I look at it another way. if you love and honour who she is, you may be able to enter a polyamorous relationship. Not all people are capable of monogamy, and it is completely irrational to suggest that being 'in love' with someone is the only reason you would have sex with them. I'm sure the people who are posting that 'she doesn't respect you' etc have from time to time, had sex with people that aren't full on in love with. Look at it from the point of view that you may be with a free spirit who enjoys sex with more than one person. She had the decency to be open about it with you, she did respect you. She broke up with you so she could pursue it, and then was honest with you about what she was doing. But like I said at first, if you are a jealous/possessive person, you will not be able to cope with this and you need to walk away. Eg in our society, while relationships outside the pair bond are frowned upon, imagine if we were allowed to be possessive on the other relationships that our SOs have. Eg some women feel jealous and insecure when their husbands spend time with their mates... but they don't automatically say it's because they don't love their wives... boyfriends are sometimes jealous about the close emotional intimacy between women's friends, but they understand that it is not because their wife loves them less. In our lives we meet people who each bring different things into our lives, help us grown. Instead of creating barriers to such growth, why not at least think about how including others can enrich our lives. So many problems stem from our insecurities.. analyse before a knee jerk reaction.i can never have a poly relationship with anyone. She said she doesn't know if it's phase that she loves me again or if she truly does. I guess best thing to do is no contact
KaliLove Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 i can never have a poly relationship with anyone. She said she doesn't know if it's phase that she loves me again or if she truly does. I guess best thing to do is no contact Yay! He finally gets it! YES..NC is the ONLY thing to do right now. This is not the girl for you, this will never be the girl for you. Don't make the same mistakes with the next one. Don't be anyone's doormat.
Author Thatone4 Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 Long story short, she made that guy her boyfriend for a week breaks up with him a week later. Reason being she tells him she still loves me and wants me back. We met up a few times after the break up and I went nc and found out that she was still seeing him. He went as far to drop off edible arrangements in the store she works in and even waited outside her house to give her mom an early Mother's Day gift. I still love her and want her back for some reason I keep thinking of the memories. I accidentally texted her when I was drunk a week ago but haven't had a conversation with her for almost 3 weeks.
Michael 93 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Not as much as you should hate yourself for being a spineless weakling. Oh man :lmao: Im so sorry OP but this comment made me chuckle this morning. Haven't laughed like this in a while.
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