devastated777 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 (edited) Hi everyone, I joined here in November after a devastating (at the time it was, now I see it was a blessing) breakup..since the breakup, I read about 10 books or so and have worked on myself. I now have been attracting some very positive, healthy men in my life. I am upfront and true to myself at the get go. I tell them that I am not looking for a relationship because I have been attached since I was 15. they are all ok with that. so here is my "dilemma".. I have met this wonderful man who I have been able to keep at arms length he is recently separated (10 months) and keeps his 3 boys pretty much full time. We see each other every other weekend and the weekends in between, granted he can "get away". during the week, we text Good night or Good Morning. When we are together during the weekend, we have the best time. We are intimate and we both have acknowledged that we fit and it is the best I have ever had. So on Mondays and Tuesdays, I am alone and I sorta crash. By Wednesday, I am back into my world. I stay busy, work out, volunteer and have started a side business. which he came to my party for this business and has bought into it. I told him he didn't have to come to it but he insisted (he is very kind and I notice he is supportive of others in his life too). I was afraid that some of the women on my business team would take advantage of him and expect him to sign up. They did not but he signed up anyway. He invested a good chunk and he begins our Monday meetings tonight. Now, this means, I will be seeing him during the week and he is involved in "my thing" . Just confused on how to perceive this. I certainly don't want to over analyze it but I tend to do that so, here we go. I am really scarred so I am trying to not have any trust issues but its hard to trust some people now, at least for me. So then there is another man involved (sort of). My good friend and one of my business partners has a boyfriend who has a best friend and they both want us to meet. Adamant about it. I have been talking to him during the week and we are friends on facebook, just light and casual and he is flying down from New York to meet me the end of this month. I really want to meet him but I don't know what to tell the one I see occasionally because Im honestly not sure what we are. I feel like there is a name for it but I cant say it on here; lets just say it ends with "buddy". But he is so darn nice, I hate to disrespect him by using that term. while having coffee yesterday morning, I told him our next weekend that I was expecting a friend from out of town and that I would not be able to "hang out". He didn't ask any questions because he is either cool or just doesn't really care. lol So sorry for the long post but what do I do here? Me this guy may see each other and not attraction at all but I know I want to meet him and he has already made his reservations and is coming. Any input would be greatly appreciated! thanks guys. you all have been great and supportive. Much love <3 Edited March 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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