jimmy76 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Hello all I hope everyone's ok and doing well for themselves in you respective situations. I've posted on here once before when i needed advice and had some lovely replies from the community, now i'm at a point i'd appreciate a little more advice! So after the break up (about 3 months ago now) I've been trying my hardest, and being pretty good with NC, but i kept getting random texts about things she wanted to give back/take from my place, then forgetting to turn up or not bringing back all she said she would. 'Stuff' doesn't bother me too much which i mentioned to her and to help me keep the NC going. I then bumped into her in town after about a month in which she quickly told me that an acquaintance (who we never really got on with) had told her how happy she was she ditched me, while asking me to wander round with her acting sweet as pie (she had left me 'all of a sudden' for not making her happy apparently, spurred on by her mate i believe) and i'm just not sure why you'd say something like that to someone unless you're trying to provoke something? But i don't understand what... It left me on the verge of cracking up right there. Our breakup was very calm, no angry words or arguments... No hatred. THEN there was more things she wanted to move to and from, sort out, so finally got to the point where everything felt final... Then she lets' me know she's texted my friend as she wants to start hanging out with him and or me for drinks "if you don't have an issue with that". Now i'm not going to start telling anyone who they can and can't see as they were good friends before we got together, but just more that every time i move on, there she is. And it's compromised my friend as he was my 'go to' man at bad times. I don't want to drag him into the middle of anything. But what should i do now? Should i mention to my friend that she told me she contacted him and what i feel? That i will probably lay low for a bit socially if she's about? Just let it go and deal with the situation when it arises? It just feels like every time i get up, i'm knocked back down again. And my mind keeps making me think she know's what she's doing here, and it gets me really angry which i desperately don't want to feel. Maybe she's annoyed at my strict NC !! It's all a bit 'kick in the nuts - sweet face' on repeat. I know her friend is pretty set up with a man and doesn't seem to be around much, maybe she's that bored she'd see if we could hang out again!? Sorry if this reads as a complete ramble, but i need to get it off my chest and see if anyone can put me straight/offer advice about how and what i should do/think now... I was doing ok but all these little things just add up you know? Thank you anyone so much for taking time to read/reply.
David87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Ignore your ex, remain NC. You still have feelings for her. Next time you see each other try to avoid her or if you must just say Hi and move along. No good can come from keeping in touch with your ex. Sorry for the brief answer but your story was all over the place.
Author jimmy76 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Hey. Yeh i know. Sorry everyone it is a bit all over the place, apologies, but thanks for responding as best you could! I keep doing the NC but she keeps popping up and there doesn't seem to be anything i can do about it, and she now wants to be in my social circle. Just not sure what i'm supposed to do or feel here. Except suck it up i guess and lay low.
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