Medium.Lumo Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I know the average number of dates before sex for couples that are just getting to know eachother is around 5, but does this differ if, say, you have been friends with your girlfriend for about a year before entering a relationship? In this case, how many dates would be appropriate before sex?
Els Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I had no idea that people were going around collecting statistics about this. 3
David87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Wow, when you feel it. Kiss her and it may happen on the first date. It happened to me. I had sex with a girl that I just met on the first date and with another girl she let me kiss her after the 3'rd one. It depends on the situation. 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Wow, when you feel it. Kiss her and it may happen on the first date. It happened to me. I had sex with a girl that I just met on the first date and with another girl she let me kiss her after the 3'rd one. It depends on the situation. Thanks! Interesting. We kissed quite a few times already before we started dating. I'm kind of hoping it will be on our first date, but I don't want to push my luck
David87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Thanks! Interesting. We kissed quite a few times already before we started dating. I'm kind of hoping it will be on our first date, but I don't want to push my luck Have you got to second base yet? After that go for the third base and if you get there well you hit the home run
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Have you got to second base yet? After that go for the third base and if you get there well you hit the home run I haven't, but only because I was nervous and suspicious when she first started making moves. I know it sounds ridiculous because she is the polar opposite of a mean girl, so the idea of her playing with me is far fetched, but that's what I thought. So I went along with making out, but tried not to seem like my pulse was going through the ceiling, and that I wasn't wanting to push for more.
pickflicker Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 There's no timeline. I've jumped in on the first, I've waited with others. When you're ridiculously attracted to them, when their kisses make your knees weak - damnit, the word "no" is impossible! 4
David87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 (edited) I haven't, but only because I was nervous and suspicious when she first started making moves. I know it sounds ridiculous because she is the polar opposite of a mean girl, so the idea of her playing with me is far fetched, but that's what I thought. So I went along with making out, but tried not to seem like my pulse was going through the ceiling, and that I wasn't wanting to push for more. Well my friend you're lucky if she makes the moves.Next time when you make out go for the second base and get her really hot, you should feel if it's ok or not to do that, after second base it shouldn't be a problem, just go with the flow. I'm happy for you friend:) Edited March 17, 2014 by David87 2
d0nnivain Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 There is no universal timeline for any of this. If I don't know someone before I date them, my # was a minimum of 12 dates plus exclusivity before sex. On the very rare occasions I went from long term friend to lover it usually happened on or before the 1st official date. lol Having known somebody for a long time gave me insight as to whether I could trust them with my heart & my body. If I couldn't there never would have been a transition.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 I think she probably does trust me, I just don't know how to initiate this. I feel a bit awkward having never been with a woman, but I realize I probably can't expect her to initiate everything. So it's tricky. There is no universal timeline for any of this. If I don't know someone before I date them, my # was a minimum of 12 dates plus exclusivity before sex. On the very rare occasions I went from long term friend to lover it usually happened on or before the 1st official date. lol Having known somebody for a long time gave me insight as to whether I could trust them with my heart & my body. If I couldn't there never would have been a transition.
Stay Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Like others has said here, if it feels right just do it. When you give yourself a set amount or when to do it, it'll feel unnatural and end up being bad. You'll think to yourself tonight is the night, it's the 5th date and that's your goal for the whole night. Just enjoy yourself and it leads to that then it does. There are no set times for anything
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