TryingToFigureItOut Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I just met this guy and we had planned to have a first date this afternoon for coffee. He texted me earlier this morning saying we had to rain check because he forgot his grandparents invited him over to their house for a late birthday dinner tonight. He sent me a three text message explaining exactly why he couldn't and asked me what my schedule looked like this week. Both of us work all week until 5pm and Mondays do not work for me at all after 5, so I told him I am available after 5 from Tuesday-Friday. He suggested we hang out and go play pool Tuesday night at 9pm, because he has a training workshop after he gets off work and won't be able to hang out until 9. Is that time suggesting a booty call? He has suggested the complete opposite to me through our communications, that he wants to get to know me and enjoys talking to me, he has never suggested or hinted at wanting a booty call. The only thing that is suggesting to me that it MIGHT be a possibility is the 9pm time, and also from what I have gathered through his social media profile him and his ex gf broke up about 3 months ago, but I don't think they were together for too long.
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Not really as long as the venue for your 1st date is public. It's just a timing issue because you both have other obligations.
HappyLove Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I just met this guy and we had planned to have a first date this afternoon for coffee. He texted me earlier this morning saying we had to rain check because he forgot his grandparents invited him over to their house for a late birthday dinner tonight. He sent me a three text message explaining exactly why he couldn't and asked me what my schedule looked like this week. Both of us work all week until 5pm and Mondays do not work for me at all after 5, so I told him I am available after 5 from Tuesday-Friday. He suggested we hang out and go play pool Tuesday night at 9pm, because he has a training workshop after he gets off work and won't be able to hang out until 9. Is that time suggesting a booty call? He has suggested the complete opposite to me through our communications, that he wants to get to know me and enjoys talking to me, he has never suggested or hinted at wanting a booty call. The only thing that is suggesting to me that it MIGHT be a possibility is the 9pm time, and also from what I have gathered through his social media profile him and his ex gf broke up about 3 months ago, but I don't think they were together for too long. 9 is a bit late during the work week for a first meetup. It's not a booty call unless you allow it to be. I personally wouldn't be comfortable with such a late first time meetup. Seems like you aren't either. Go with what your comfortable with don't feel like you HAVE TO meet at that time, that night. Sounds like BS anyway, you were meeting for AFTERNOON coffee so he has to cancel because of a late night dinner with grandparents? Be very careful with this one OP. My advice, r/s for afternoon coffee next weekend or a Friday night date.
babycakees Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I wouldn't worry about it being a booty call. You are meeting in a public place and you have the power to refuse to go back to his place.
Author TryingToFigureItOut Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 9 is a bit late during the work week for a first meetup. It's not a booty call unless you allow it to be. I personally wouldn't be comfortable with such a late first time meetup. Seems like you aren't either. Go with what your comfortable with don't feel like you HAVE TO meet at that time, that night. Sounds like BS anyway, you were meeting for AFTERNOON coffee so he has to cancel because of a late night dinner with grandparents? Be very careful with this one OP. My advice, r/s for afternoon coffee next weekend or a Friday night date. It wasn't a late night dinner, it was a dinner at 6.
HappyLove Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 It wasn't a late night dinner, it was a dinner at 6. Ok, but a coffee meet is like an hour long maybe a bit more if you really hit it off. Hey, like I said do what your comfortable with. I personally wouldn't meet so late on a first meetup. Always think of your safety first. It's dark by that time and you don't know this guy. Not that many people out during the week those hours. Not trying to scare you just saying be safe when meeting with a stranger. Wait, is this a online guy or someone you know? Guess you need to take that in consideration too.
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