rachelssecret5 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 8 months now, and we are both 22 years old and extremely serious about our relationship. Things are great, however, I sometimes find my boyfriend's behavior a little odd. We had a discussion about how much we value privacy in a relationship, and so my boyfriend said that he has nothing to hide, and therefore he is fine with me going through his phone if I ever felt the need to do so. I liked that, however, I made no effort to go through his phone. I trust him wholeheartedly, and even if I do get a little curious, I don't want to misconstrue anything and start drama over something small (as I am paranoid, and tend to overthink - so I think it's better to avoid going through his phone at all) Following this, my boyfriend gave me his Facebook password, and again told me that I had access to it 24/7 and go through whatever I like. And again, I am hesitant about intruding his personal space like that. He tells me how he wants me to take advantage of the privileges he gives me - as in, go through his phone and Facebook. He's even gone to the extent of telling me that he would actually really like it if I told him I disapproved of him hanging out with certain female friends I don't like (even if it's just because I am jealous). I am just SO confused. Here, I am being a girlfriend who trusts, and respects his privacy and does NOT want to control his life - yet, I feel like he wants me to behave the complete opposite of this. He wants me to call him 3 in the morning and tell him I just want to talk, he wants me to object on girls who comment on his Facebook, he wants me to snoop around and look through his phone. I don't get it. I appreciate all his kind gestures and him being so open. But I don't know how to react to all this. I feel like taking advantage of all that will only backfire. Can someone help me figure this guy out?
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 maybe he dated someone with serious trust issues in the past? or maybe he had them, and is trying to 'reverse the issue'...?
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