backatone Posted January 26, 2005 Share Posted January 26, 2005 Ok she called. She was actually pist at me for not calling her this whole time. Its like, what? You wanted a break and then you call me back and your mad at me for giving you space? Well, I did not answer the phone. So I don't know what to do. She said that I probably lost her number so she gave it to me again. Thats kinda funny. Anyways.....she said she has some business stuff for me. I dont know it that is a plot to get me to call back or what. Im really confused now. Today was 1month to the dot of NO CONTACT. She must have been counting the days too. Link to post Share on other sites
zep52 Posted January 26, 2005 Share Posted January 26, 2005 I to am doing the NC thing been just over two weeks now seems to me that you are in the driving seat now my friend play wisely, she is feeling you out, you must under no circumstance let her feel that you have been waiting for the call, let her stew then play your ace, and that ace is that she contacted you If you want her back you have to be sooooo cool as ice or you will blow it, let her do the work and keep it up for a long time cause if she catches a whiff of relief on ur part ur dead meat and back where u started, one thing i have learned and am in the process of re-learning is that women want a man to be a man, Best of luck and keep us informed. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 26, 2005 Share Posted January 26, 2005 Originally posted by backatone She was actually pist at me for not calling her this whole time. Its like, what? You wanted a break and then you call me back and your mad at me for giving you space? The above is typical female behavior. Say one thing, do another. Here is what u do. Call her back in two days and talk for a short time (<15 min) and keep it non-serious. If you want to see her tell her MAYBE WE CAN GET TOGETHER DOWN THE ROAD but don't set a date or anything. then tell her you'll be busy for next few days and you;ll call her when you get time. Then you can cal her after 4 or 5 more days and set ssomething up. Make her wait and beg. Link to post Share on other sites
Author backatone Posted January 26, 2005 Author Share Posted January 26, 2005 I just cant believe that she would be mad at ME. WTF??? And then you think I am going to want to call you back when you call me all mad??? She probably just called me because she is sick and lonely. Or she wanted to give me that business stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
strange love Posted January 26, 2005 Share Posted January 26, 2005 Wow now I have a brother in arms My ex is doing the same s++t to me she has my stuff.. etc and she is mad at me. Maybe together we can figure it out Cause I know at this point my grasp of reality is slowing fading. I guess let her vent... ps is she a scorpio? Link to post Share on other sites
Author backatone Posted January 27, 2005 Author Share Posted January 27, 2005 No she is a taurus just like me. I don know whats up with this flip flop. Link to post Share on other sites
Nick14 Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 Funny, I think you two guys should be lucky. My ex is a taurus and she has never even called me or initiate talking to me first in 5 months since she dumped me after 2.5 years. Even though I haven't gone more then 1 month, I dunno sometimes I wish I was in your shoes cause that just means they still care about you at least sigh.... Good luck Gentlemen. Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 She was actually pist at me for not calling her this whole time. Its like, what? You wanted a break and then you call me back and your mad at me for giving you space? The above is typical female behavior. Say one thing, do another my ex... exactly the same... 27th December she says no more contact via text... so i do NC!... 7th January i call down to see her in person... one of the things she is pissed about is not sending her a New Years message! Link to post Share on other sites
snowcraig Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 You have to establish that you are back in control. Ask yourself what you did that contributed to the break-up (yes, you did something) and make sure that is fixed. Then just have fun with her for a while. See where it goes. Don't be mad at her though, just be positive about yourself, and make sure she sees you are most worried about your life, and being with her would just be a little bonus, not the biggest part. Women are so complicated. Link to post Share on other sites
theone44 Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 Originally posted by zep52 , one thing i have learned and am in the process of re-learning is that women want a man to be a man, Best of luck and keep us informed. I agree with you on this statement. Link to post Share on other sites
Author backatone Posted January 27, 2005 Author Share Posted January 27, 2005 Well, I think this is pretty much hell on earth. I wished she would have never called. I called her back and we talk about a couple business questions that she had........then she got right into the," how are you doing, how is your life, anything new?" Obviously she did not just call for business. She then proceeds to tell me that she has quit her waitressing job (which I hated her working there) and that she found a new job with benifts. I was like, good, good to hear. She said that she has been passing out my business cards and that a couple of orders should be coming my way. Sure enough, I wake up this morning and some guy wanted to order an inpection from me.....so at this point I am a little confused. Before we broke up, I was teaching her how to do my line of work "inspections". So, before we would both go to the house and inspect it and I would teach her my job. So now, she breaks up with me for a month.........gets a couple orders..........then she is my best friend. So, I call her up this morning and im like look, I dont know what the f*ck you are plaining, but you are not going to just break up with me......then weezle your way back in my life with work. I said, I dont play the friend s*** anymore. I cant work side by side with you. She said, oh so you broke up with me the first time and wanted to be friends.......now I do it this time and you dont want to be friends? I said, if your serious about this, you can meet me at the house...do the inspection.....then go on our ways and I can pay you for your part. WHAT A MESS. I dont know what she is up to. I dont know if she is dating someone, I just dont know. Judging by the anger of her call yesterday....I can tell that there is some feelings there. What the h$ll should I do??? Link to post Share on other sites
zep52 Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 Whatever her reasons if you let her rattle you she will see that she is in a position of power, what happens from now is UP TO YOU, you can take it anyway you want it to go but you must keep your cool or you are handing her the reigns, All good in theory my friend i know but when talking with her take a long slow breath before you respond to her, that way your mind gets a chance to catch up with your mouth, a problem most of us have when dealing with affairs of the heart, If you want her back take it slow and easy, if you don't want her back then you really don't need to do anything, but you must be sure in your own mind which path you want to follow, before you take the first step, else you will go round in a large irregular circle, Best of luck, and hang loose... Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 damn taurus women. they are messed son. My ex was a tauru went weird. Anyway, she sounds weird and maybe guilty of things so she wants to hang around in your lfie in case she decides to change her mind. Obviously, this is silly and selfish of ehr and it si good to see you wont deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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