Cat888 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 When in No contact is it quite possible my ex boyfriend will contact me we havent spoken in six days? Should I contact him after another two weeks we where together a year and the break up was very sudden
lvroflife Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 NC is for YOU!! For you to begin your healing!! For YOU to refocus on YOU and do wahtever YOU want to do!!! NC is not for him to contact... YOU never break NC! easier said than done I know this but YOU have to try YOUR hardest to stick with it! If he wants to talk he will reach out! Then when he does YOU have to be aware of the "breadcrumbs" Do not fall for those!! Only time(s) you should pick up his call, return his messages is if you have reached "INDEIFFERENCE" or he says the magic sentence-"I made a mistake, I miss you and I want to work this out". Other then that each time you break NC you will go right back to phase 1! You'll get your "fix" for the moment after contact is made, but when it wears off you will be kicking yourself and upset as to why you spoke with him!! Try hard not to break, but you are human and you might, and if you do, it's ok it happens, just try hard not too! 2
Mr.Pine Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 When in No contact is it quite possible my ex boyfriend will contact me we havent spoken in six days? Should I contact him after another two weeks we where together a year and the break up was very sudden Kitty Cat Meow-Meow, Like yourself, I was unaware and unfamiliar with the true meaning of NO CONTACT. Like yourself, I thought it was a means to get my ex back by making her wonder wtf happened to me. This is what I thought NC meant when I first logged on here a few weeks back... ME (DAY 1): I'm going to ignore her for a couple of weeks and I am sure she'll call or email or text or... ME (DAY 3): Um, uh... how come she hasn't called or emailed or texted. Maybe I should call or email or text her. Let me re-read that NC thread. ME (DAY 7) She ain't gonna call or email or text. NC isn't for me to get back together with her after she realizes she misses me because I've gone quiet for a week. NC is for ME to get that beeyotch out of my head and thoughts. See, it took me a week to realize, NC is the best thing since sliced bread IF and only IF you follow it to a "T". No texting on birthdays. No emailing requesting your t-shirt or DVDs or Xbox games back (unless of course you were stupid enough to leave GTA 5 behind, then break NC like a champ!). NC is not to be used for means of manipulation. NC is used for means of healing. Healing your soul. Once you realize NC's true calling, you'll do just fine. 2
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 When in No contact is it quite possible my ex boyfriend will contact me we havent spoken in six days? Yes. Ignore it completely. Block every available avenue for him to be able to reach you. Block emails, texts, messages, phonecalls, everything. Delete him off facebook, and any other social media outlet. Should I contact him after another two weeks we where together a year and the break up was very sudden You know that saying, "When hell freezes over"...? That's when you contact him. Not before. Read the 'New Updated No Contact Guide' in my signature/link. Everything you need to know, is right there, first post. 3
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Yes. Ignore it completely. Block every available avenue for him to be able to reach you. Block emails, texts, messages, phonecalls, everything. Delete him off facebook, and any other social media outlet. You know that saying, "When hell freezes over"...? That's when you contact him. Not before. Read the 'New Updated No Contact Guide' in my signature/link. Everything you need to know, is right there, first post. I love your advice!!!
KaliLove Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Yes. Ignore it completely. Block every available avenue for him to be able to reach you. Block emails, texts, messages, phonecalls, everything. Delete him off facebook, and any other social media outlet. You know that saying, "When hell freezes over"...? That's when you contact him. Not before. Read the 'New Updated No Contact Guide' in my signature/link. Everything you need to know, is right there, first post. With the "arctic vortex" we have going on in the US, it's quite possible that hell will freeze over in a matter of mere months, if it hasn't already! But you still shouldn't contact your ex.
Author Cat888 Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 Hello thanks for the advice guys this is going to sound strange I put a post on Facebook about some game I needed help on and he automatically did so i liked a post of his and pic. I did it cos i wasn't sure if he had deleted him of my news feed and I wanted to make sure he hadn't as I am off for a night out tomorrow night and I wanted him to see what he is missing I am still doing no contact as in no messaging Is this a good idea cos i know he will see the pics of me having fun and he will think things?
lvroflife Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Not a good idea!! Do not post anything on FB. Some LS members will tell you to block him. I didn't block my ex. I just never went on nor never posted anything of FB. No need for ploys, tricks, or games. He will realize what he is missing in time if he is going to miss you. SWITCH the focus on you! He does not need to know what you are doing. Besides if he knows what you're doing how can wonder about you. DO NOT POST ANYTHING. And if you can't stay off FB then delete him, block him.
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