lvroflife Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 So my ex and I are working on things and taking it slow... The problem is I forget how to do this! LOL I mean we love each other and know A LOT about each other and want to take things slow, the thing is I don't remember how! I mean when we dated I could go days without talking to her and know when and how to reach out to her. Now, that there is love love and other emotions, I find myself questioning "should I let her reach out to me?" "Is this to sweet?" "Should I do this or that?" "Is this to much?" It's driving me nuts... I do not want to over whelm her as I want her to come to me at her pace like in the beginning. I do want to still be me bc that is who and what she fell for... perhaps I am just overthinking to much...
SerialGirl Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I'm going through the same thing. I'm holding back and letting him set the pace. We want to be with each other, we trust each other and we know we're in it for the long haul...so, it can be hard to hold back, but he's new at this so I'm letting him take the reins. I just have to do a little guiding sometimes. But, I wouldn't try to recapture the past. Stay in the here and now. Leave the past behind since it didn't work out back then. Just don't repeat past mistakes.
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 So my ex and I are working on things and taking it slow... The problem is I forget how to do this! LOL I mean we love each other and know A LOT about each other and want to take things slow, the thing is I don't remember how! I mean when we dated I could go days without talking to her and know when and how to reach out to her. Now, that there is love love and other emotions, I find myself questioning "should I let her reach out to me?" "Is this to sweet?" "Should I do this or that?" "Is this to much?" It's driving me nuts... I do not want to over whelm her as I want her to come to me at her pace like in the beginning. I do want to still be me bc that is who and what she fell for... perhaps I am just overthinking to much... I think you guys should seriously consider counselling, to discuss these issues. If neither of you have done anything concrete and demonstrable to alter whatever went wrong last time, it will go wrong this time. 1
Author lvroflife Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Oh we have altered what went wrong and have discussed ALL issues we had. My issue is because we are working on building a NEW solid foundatui , I find myself trying not to overwhelm with the mushy lovey dovey stuff. I'm trying to let her come to me and not rush right back in. I want to make sure she is serious about this and not just coming back because of being lonely etc...
somegoodman Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 So my ex and I are working on things and taking it slow... The problem is I forget how to do this! LOL I mean we love each other and know A LOT about each other and want to take things slow, the thing is I don't remember how! I mean when we dated I could go days without talking to her and know when and how to reach out to her. Now, that there is love love and other emotions, I find myself questioning "should I let her reach out to me?" "Is this to sweet?" "Should I do this or that?" "Is this to much?" It's driving me nuts... I do not want to over whelm her as I want her to come to me at her pace like in the beginning. I do want to still be me bc that is who and what she fell for... perhaps I am just overthinking to much... That's why it is so hard to return to a failed relationship. You can't just relax and be comfortable with that person because in the back of your mind you know she's capable of tossing you out.
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