ThroneH Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 (edited) So I've been going out with this girl for 5 months. We really like each other. I'm 25 years old and she is 24. She's very nice, and well behaved. We both live close to each other in Atlanta, at home with our parents (I recently moved back in due to the lease running out of my other place). I have yet to meet her family. Her parents are very catholic. Hell, both of them will never ever touch a drop of alcohol. She's very close to her mom who she will even talk to/text on the phone when we're out somewhere on a date. She does alot of things for her mom at home. Now, here's the thing. Her mom needs to know my girlfriend's every move. Always wants her home at a reasonable time (even on the weekends). She got into trouble for coming home at 12:30 one night (well, morning). I even noticed at around 11 at night she constantly checks the time. She never wants to stay over and watch a movie at mine. My girlfriend even said that if she moved out, her mom would still check up to see what she is doing every night, and would want her home at a certain time. I'm waiting for my girlfriend to break out of her shell. Why do her parents have to interfere? I really like this girl. What should I do? If we were to stay together, it just can't keep going on like this. Thanks in advance. Edited March 16, 2014 by ThroneH
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 For now there is nothing you can do. She lives there, their home their rules, they are religious and have a way of thinking and living you can't start a war against, you will lose. This is all bigger than you are. Parents will be parents. The question is why she is willing to let this control go on even when she'll be out from under their roof?
deathandtaxes Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Her parents interfere because there are parents out there who love to interfere and control their children. They interfere because your gf doesn't stop them from interfering. You really can't do anything about it right now. Their house, their rules unfortunately. You'd think they would want to instill some maturity into their daughter and let her be an adult. Ideally, your gf would move out. Why is she still living with her parents?
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Ask to meet the parents. Perhaps when you meet them, their fears about their daughter's safety & virtue will disappear. Not drinking has nothing to do with Catholicism. Temperance is much more of a Baptist / Christian thing. Her strict Catholic will never abide sleep-overs before marriage however At 24 if she hasn't cut the apron strings & doesn't seem inclined to do so, this may be a life long pattern. Do you want a marriage where her mother views herself as an equal partner?
bubbaganoosh Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 It comes down to this. She lives in her mothers house and she abides by the rules. If your serious about this girl and from what you have said, she seems like a really nice person, you may have to deal with her mother if you decide down the road to marry her. It's one thing to have a close relationship with her Mom but another when she becomes the third wheel in a serious relationship. If things progress to the point of marriage, then you two should have a talk about Moms boundaries. I know I'm putting the cart before the horse on this but it's just food for thought.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 People that are 24 and have curfews is a little weird, even if they are still living at home.
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