napy666 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 When it comes to dating I know some of us try to change the person we're dating but does it work? I know I tried with some of my ex's but it never worked haha. What about you?
pickflicker Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Futile. It's true that people in relationships will become more like one another, but it is a natural evolution, not a forced change. Trying to change someone will always end in tears.
MidwestUSA Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Nope. Wasted many years trying, and hoping. Never again. Find someone whom you can accept 'as is'. 3
Conners Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I don't think so. I've seen first hand that people can compromise to keep the one they love happy but not necessarily change. Someone needs to change for themselves, not another person. 1
FitChick Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 The way to change someone is by changing yourself. Then they have to respond differently because you are different.
GoreSP Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 When it comes to dating I know some of us try to change the person we're dating but does it work? I know I tried with some of my ex's but it never worked haha. What about you? You can't change a person unless they themselves decide to change... 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 When it comes to dating I know some of us try to change the person we're dating but does it work? I know I tried with some of my ex's but it never worked haha. What about you? Trying to change someone undervalues their true worth, and demeans yours.
Silly_Girl Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 The way to change someone is by changing yourself. Then they have to respond differently because you are different. Agreed. Even then it's not guaranteed.
Canucklehead Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Learned early on that people change when they truly want to..... not when they are told to. I believe we sometimes think people change when we cast them in a different light. To me, shifting our own perspective makes the same person appear to be different
AntiSocal Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 People only change when they really want to. Nobody will change for another person, especially not if that other person is still around and supporting them. By supporting the person/being there for them you are basically reinforcing their negative actions. Why would they feel the need to change when you're willing to put up with their abuse? It really takes falling flat on your face and hitting rock bottom to make a change for the better. I've done a complete 180 since high school. Took my girlfriend cheating on me, then dumping me, to make me realize what a sad pushover i had been. If she had stuck around i would probably still be with her, and still be the same person.
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