sam523 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 So this might come off to people as an issue that might not be such a big deal and easy to overcome, but I honestly need help. Around April, I acquired a new job and was placed at a random site. This job requires all of the staff to work together for a good 5 hours a day. I met this girl there. From the first day we met, we talked, we immediately clicked. We would always talk together when we were together, eventually exchanging numbers and talking to each other before and after work as well. For some reason, I fell hard for this girl. We talked as "friends" up until August came along. We both came forward to each other that we both liked each other a lot. Around that time in August, I was switched to another site, so we didn't really see each other anymore. We would talk everyday, and I would help her out with school, even mentor her, just basically be there for everything and she knew that and loved and appreciated that (at least that is what I thought). Eventually, I figured out that she was talking to another guy even before we had met and when I brought it up, she had no choice but to open up to me about it. After her coming out to me about that, we still talked. She eventually got with this guy and told me that she loved me and is so sorry she is making this move, and thats when I completely stopped talking to her. After a couple of weeks of not talking to each other, she texted me and said that she can't go on without talking to me. We hung out a few times (of course she lied to her boyfriend about ever talking to me, as he knew me because she always talked about me to him), and I just felt this connection together that I had never felt with anyone else. Very shortly after that, she broke up with him and told me that it just wasnt working with him. That is when we started to really date. We would go out and she would see me often. Her sister is a very good friend of mine, so she knew me really well and liked me as a person and wanted her sister to be with someone like me. We were basically together without a title for about two months, as we would do things that anyone regular relationship would have (kissing, going out, and sex a couple of times). Eventually she started to distance herself and be short with me. I confronted her about it and she said that she was talking to her ex again, and that she really wants to be with him, but she loves me (yes she used that word). I told her that if she is going to talk to him and think about being with him, then there is no reason for us to be anything. She agreed and they got back together. Now I know I don't need women like that in my life AT ALL, but for some reason I can't get over it. I always end up thinking about her. Its been about 3 weeks and in those 3 weeks she texted me once saying she misses me so much, but I cut it short and made sure she knew I wasn't trying to talk to her because of what she did. I really need advice. I don't know how to get over her.
pickflicker Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 You've got to go cold turkey. 90 days. 3 weeks is nowhere near enough time.
Author sam523 Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 You've got to go cold turkey. 90 days. 3 weeks is nowhere near enough time. I agree. I just hate the fact that she can just go on and be happy while I am thinking about her all the time. Did she play me? Always saying how much I mean to her, and how literally any free time she had, she wanted to talk to me on the phone, text me and how she was always happy when she was with me. Was all that an act?
StubbornSam Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I agree. I just hate the fact that she can just go on and be happy while I am thinking about her all the time. Did she play me? Always saying how much I mean to her, and how literally any free time she had, she wanted to talk to me on the phone, text me and how she was always happy when she was with me. Was all that an act? Welcome to the club. Believe me she still thinks about you, but she cares more about this other guy otherwise she would be with you. I don't know if it was an act, but maybe she was over romanticizing her feelings. Pick is right, you got to go hardcore NC. Let her figure things our on her own and worry about yourself now.
pickflicker Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I agree. I just hate the fact that she can just go on and be happy while I am thinking about her all the time. Did she play me? Always saying how much I mean to her, and how literally any free time she had, she wanted to talk to me on the phone, text me and how she was always happy when she was with me. Was all that an act? Doesn't matter. Cold turkey...
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