lovebirds Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 This is a post written with alcohol still in my veins. WHY oh WHY do I break down so when I drink. Three times I have been drunk since we broke up after six years, 4 months ago more or less. I was doing ****ing great the last month, no crying, feeling things for someone else... Then when I drink and dance I enjoy myself but when I cycle home I break down and start crying, asking the silent city why don't you miss me? I hate this. My subconcious... Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 Breakup and alcohol are never a good mixture. I hope at this points you have eradicated any means that May potential yield to you contacting your ex. This is simply a weak moment, learn from it and remember it next time you feel down and out. Refrain from alcohol usage, it's never good to self medicate. Hang strong, you are in this for the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 Alcohol is a depressant which means it slows down and affects the central nervous system (specifically your brain and spinal cord.) No amount of alcohol will numb you to your bitter truth of a LTR ending and nothing you take will end this cycle of grieving without finding new joy and purpose in life. Best thing to do is not to drink because the few moments of numbness and euphoria are soon replaced by the high being deflated and depressed again and it is the much more traumatic and longer feeling. Stay sober and do things to work out your emotions like running, journaling, meditation, watching comedies or stand up, hanging out with friends or small children who want to play, or take up a hobby like kickboxing or painting. Finding laughter and joy in other things besides alcohol is your only way to heal and to forgo this feeling of despondency alcohol gives you. Also, four months after such a long relationship isn't really that long. Time doesn't heal anything, hands on embracing life and determination to look forward to the future does. This hurts, but since it ended, you have to allow that looking forward to possibility is better than looking back at what could have beens. Good luck, Grumps 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovebirds Posted March 16, 2014 Author Share Posted March 16, 2014 Breakup and alcohol are never a good mixture. I hope at this points you have eradicated any means that May potential yield to you contacting your ex. This is simply a weak moment, learn from it and remember it next time you feel down and out. Refrain from alcohol usage, it's never good to self medicate. Hang strong, you are in this for the long run. I am in contact with my ex sometimes, I feel like I am over him, and I did not feel like texting him or whatever. That's the weird thing, I am truly happy and would not want to be with my ex anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Conners Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 Grumpy is right, alcohol is a depressant and it will only numb you for a certain amount of time. I know exactly how you feel. I'll be doing ok and then decide to go out drinking with friends, drink until I no longer feel anything and then when I start to sober up I will be crying and even more depressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovebirds Posted March 16, 2014 Author Share Posted March 16, 2014 Alcohol is a depressant which means it slows down and affects the central nervous system (specifically your brain and spinal cord.) No amount of alcohol will numb you to your bitter truth of a LTR ending and nothing you take will end this cycle of grieving without finding new joy and purpose in life. Best thing to do is not to drink because the few moments of numbness and euphoria are soon replaced by the high being deflated and depressed again and it is the much more traumatic and longer feeling. Stay sober and do things to work out your emotions like running, journaling, meditation, watching comedies or stand up, hanging out with friends or small children who want to play, or take up a hobby like kickboxing or painting. Finding laughter and joy in other things besides alcohol is your only way to heal and to forgo this feeling of despondency alcohol gives you. Also, four months after such a long relationship isn't really that long. Time doesn't heal anything, hands on embracing life and determination to look forward to the future does. This hurts, but since it ended, you have to allow that looking forward to possibility is better than looking back at what could have beens. Good luck, Grumps Thanks for your reply. I do not drink to get a feeling of numbness or to 'end a cycle of grieving'. I drink alcohol about once a month when I go out dancing, just because it makes me better at it and to have fun with my friends, it has nothing to do with self-medicating or anything, it is something I did even before the BU. Plus I don't drink excessively (no feeling sick or not remembering what I did). So that's why it's so frustrating, I am at peace with my BU, have a great life, great friends, take care of myself, ... I know it's soon, but I hardly think about my ex anymore. I thought it was just really interesting/frustrating that alcohol does this to me. It is like my subconscious wants to push out the last feelings of grief that I have in me. Link to post Share on other sites
jennifermariecole Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 Oh sweetheart, I feel SO bad for you!! I know how you feel. When I got dumped, I suffered for a really long time and eventually joined a gym - getting the regular exercise helped me out a LOT and the trainer there suggested I give up alcohol permanently. I basically have done that now - I rarely drink and I find if I do, then afterwards I feel really down. It is definitely a depressant. So give it up if you can. You will feel much better. Link to post Share on other sites
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