Lipitor11 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 I'm the type of person that likes to keep in touch with friends, if I happen to find a good friend-they will be considered a friend for life, but some people seem sooo bothered by having a friend call them up and see what they are doing. For example, I was close friends with this friend/coworker and she moved out of state, I called her a few times and she had no idea who it was and was surprised that I even had her number. Then, I called this other friend/co-worker that got fired last year, and I sometimes call her every now and then, however sometimes when I call her she has no clue who it is, sometimes she recognizes the number and asks who is calling her. I'm like WTH? I'm just tired of looking like idiot calling and trying to keep in touch with people I considered good friends. What's wrong about that? I don't get it, there's other people that keep in touch with friends since high school and such.
Katzen Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 I am a student right now. People do drift quite a lot, every now and then I see a HS acquittance and do not hesitate to keep up with the times (2-3 years since last contact) My father always tells me that when it is co-workers and all, people tend to forget much faster. I think that in work you don't bond as much as you do in the student era.
preraph Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 You have to realize that coworkers are obligated to act like they like you while they're working with you. Not to say some can't become genuine friends, but don't ever take it for granted. Some people are very good at playing the game to get along at work. When I left a career I'd been in for a couple of decades, I was surprised at the people who were no longer the least bit interested in being friendly and really hurt by it. The one good friend that was not someone who worked with me but who I did have business with, she was still friendly, but it was awkward. But see, it was obvious she was a real friend because we hung out not just for work-related stuff (we had fun jobs). Most of the rest just acted like they wondered what took so long or something. I would never dream of being that two-faced to someone like they were. It was part of their job and I was their client.
Jitterbug Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 The same thing happened to me a few times with work friends. I chalk it up to people being phony. It isn't a reflection on you - you sound like an amazing friend - it's a reflection on them. Some people still have a long way to go in learning how to cultivate integrity and genuineness; some people haven't learned to always be themselves - not just when the boss is watching. Consider yourself lucky; you wouldn't want a "fair weather friend" anyway. They aren't worth your time.
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