AliOop Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Hi all, first time poster here. I can't say I'm looking for advice, venting is more like it. I'm struggling with my recent break up and most definitely shouldn't be! Arggggghhhh! I met him on OLD and we hit it off. We were seeing each other for 3.5 months and even though he works insane hours and our schedules don't match up we managed to get together weekly, have overnights, etc. We were not exclusive but it looked like it was going to go that way, we really enjoyed each other and were in touch many times daily. Things started to fall apart for him on his job...he was passed over for a promotion and took it HARD. He left me a message one night saying he was having dinner with his daughter and her friend - he was coming to see me the next night. When we got together I asked how his daughter was doing and he said "I haven't talked to her in days." I was so surprised that I couldn't even react - I went into "Stepford Wife" mode and muttered something along the lines of "Oh.....I guess dinner - I mut have misunderstood......" He turned pink once he realized his slip and said "I mean, we didn't talk about much - her friend was there." Okay, obviously he was still dating. As I said, we weren't exclusive but I'll say it - that stung. Anyway, in Summer his schedule becomes 7 days a week, 9 am to 10 pm (Chef at a private beach club). He was going to have no time to see me at all. I was bummed at the thought of "how am I going to be able to hang in there" and wasn't sure how to handle it when his daily phone calls stopped. I gave it a few days and emailed him asking if he'd had a change of heart - he replied quickly that he hadn't, he was in a horrible mood and hoped to be better in a week or so. I felt like **** that he had lied to me. It wouldn't leave me alone. Why make up a story to cover up a date when he simply didn't have to say anything? I became angry and sent him an email telling him that I was very disappointed that he lied to me when he didn't need to. I laughed at him turning pink and pointed it out - I even went so far as to say "You should have seen the shade of pink." Sure wish I left that last sentence out I'm just so very sorry that it turned out like this. Sigh. Thanks for listening to my rant I just can't wait to stop feeling so lost.......
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