Took her 6 months 2 finish withme yet she had a valid reason, get back together?

[Lovewilltearusapart]

I was dumped by my gf of 4 and a half years on saturday, at the time she told me that it was becasue she no longer loved me, but she still cares about me. I was absolutely devestated. Today i found out that one of her housemates from last year told her he had feelings for her last summer and that she realised that she had feelings for him, and that ever since she's been hoping that i would realise? that the relationship had run its course and finish it. The most confusing thing is that i've cheated on her a couple of times since the summer and told her, so she's had a valid excuse to end it for ages, i wasnt proud about it and i even suggested that if she wanted to finish it that it would be fair, but she didnt. What i dont understand is that if she wanted out so badly and even had feelings for someone else, why didnt she just do it when she had a perfect reason? I dont want to cling to false hope, but if she spent 6 months with an excuse why did it take her so long? I really want to get back together with her and really regret the cheating (i have a very low self esteem and think that i did it to boost my ego, very bad i know) and i was wondering if anyone had any opinions. Further more, she and this housemate have absolutely nothing in common except the fact that they shared a house last year, although hes a nice bloke (which makes it even worse) i really dont see what they'll do together, so do i have a chance and if so how?

[L1234]

Cut your losses and move on. She's made her decision. No one is perfect and you can't cling on to what you once had. What was good at one time sometimes isn't good the next time around. Good Luck!

[Lovewilltearusapart]

Thanks for the support, i know that i need to try and move on, but im finding it really hard. I just want to know why it took her so long to actually go through with it if she wasnt happy, when she had a reason for breaking up that i'd even suggested when i confessed to cheating.

 

Dont quite know how im going to move on though, im in my final year at uni and dont really have any friends here because i spent so much time with her. I really need to move on as i've got loads of work to do which will decide my final grade, and at the moment all I seem able to do is sit in bed and cry. I really want to go home and see my mates, but i dont really have the time as i've got so much to do and the deadlines are coming up soon. Its really bad but i basically have till the end of the weekend to get back to functioning normally, else i'll have just wasted three years and put myself in loads of debt for nothing. I know that it takes time to heal, but if anyones got some suggestions it would really help (this is my first break up).