NeoGen85 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 It's been a long time since I had a girlfriend or felt the need to have one at all. To an extent I enjoy the feeling of someone loving you just like everyone else, but I think I forgot how to love others. I haven't had a strong connection with anyone in my life through physical interaction, common interest, and personality the past few years. And since it's been so long, I'm starting to feel numb to the whole idea. I'm noticing myself becoming more socially awkward around women as well. In fact, my sister keeps pushing me to speak with a friend of hers. This woman is beautiful, smart, fun, and definitely a catch. But why don't I feel up to the pursuit? When my sister asked me why I hadn't return her friend's phone calls, I told her that I was busy. But deep down...I just feel like I don't want to be bothered. I'm starting to realize they're might be something wrong with me because her friend is very much worth the chase.
Tina747 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 It sounds a lot like depression? Sometimes I feel that way when I have been hurt in the past and am afraid to jump back in the water... but the longer you wait the harder it will be... I would recommend opening yourself up a little more and taking some risks and "just get back out there" and have faith you will meet the right person if you are willing to try... the worst thing you can do is alienate yourself. Not healthy.
OhThatGirl Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 You haven't felt that connection.. But have you given it a shot? Have you been going on dates? If not, just tough it out, go through the motions. It's hard to be enthusiastic and do the "chasing" if you haven't recently had a reminder of how fun it can be when you finally catch something great. I'd agree with the other posters too. Sometimes there is a physical or psychological cause to this type of complacency. Other times it just may be feeling worn out and tired of dating. Either way, you know objectively this girl is worth your time. While you see your doc and get a physical, just push on to at least see what she's about. You know for certain you won't get that connection if you don't at least try. How old are you?
Author NeoGen85 Posted March 15, 2014 Author Posted March 15, 2014 I don't alienate myself from friends and family. And I enjoy being in their company. But I've always been a introvert. I love having time to myself. I'm 28 and going on 29. I'm actually scheduled for a physical on Tuesday.
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