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Those who have read my post know my story.

 

Ex dumped me at the beginning of February. I struggled. Sent breadcrumbs 2 weeks after break up. Last Friday spoke for 3 hours about trying to see if we could cork it out. Last night she sent me a text "smiley emoticon" I don't respond. 10 minutes later she called (@ 1 am). Told me she needed to talk to me. Then asked me if I would pick her up from the airport as she was going to fly in to talk. She recently moved 500 miles away. She said "I miss you and I wanted to see you like yesterday and I want to see if we can work this out". I told her if she will fly up we can talk (now she is flying to Florida today too) she went to go change all her flight plans to meet with me.

 

We met and talked. We discussed what broke in the relationship we discussed doubts we have and we talked about exactly what we needed from each other to try and make it work. We both agreed to not jump right back in but to take it slow and see what happens. I am very hopeful but not getting too excited. I held her tight and as I was holding her she closed her eyes and just smiled. Yes that is a good sign but we still have a long road ahead

 

I share this because focusing on YOURSELF HELPS! Although I did not delete her from my FB I never posted or went on there. I shifted my focus to me (which was really tough) and I got my butt in the gym, changed my diet, started kick boxing and jogging. I met up with some friends cried to them and forced a smile. ALSO SHOUT OUT TO THIS FORUM! EVERYONE ON HERE IS AWESOME. Back to the story: I started to feel a little confidence coming back, but still was hsurting like hell. When we spoke she revealed things I never knew. I actually listened to her and heard her words. Before she ledt , she rubbed my face, smiled, said I love you and told me when she comes back from her work trip she wants me to come visit her and begin to try a new us!

 

She them text me two hearts (as she always used to).

 

I have to say Thank you to LS and all of you for reading and posting on my thread and allowing me to post on yours! I she and I are not at 100% but the fact we had OPEN and HONEST communication is the FOUNDATION for hopefully a LIFELONG PARTNERSHIP. I will definitely keep you all posted.

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hudson701 Established Member

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Congratulations I would love to be in this position now.

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TY for the congrats!

 

However, honestly, speaking we have work to do! Yes it is great she realized my worth and how life is w/o me (although it was a short time w/o me). But this is a completely NEW RELATIONSHIP.

 

I know that I am going to allow her to come to me. This is hard as I was the pursuer of her when we first met and now she has to prove to me she wants this! She knows exactly what I want and how I feel, I still have to rebuild my trust in her (not trust in cheating, but trust that she will be clear and talk when problems arise and not run). Right now I am still confused and nervous, but this is a part of reconciliation.

 

I need to see how serious she is about this.

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