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I understand it can be a bad thing but doesn't everyone get a bit jealous? i'll admit i do. I don't control my girlfriend but I do get a bit jealous. If I see a guy maybe hitting on her I get a bit jealous but I never get mad or yell at her or anything

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A bit of jealousy is human nature and can be harmless. :)

 

Not yelling doesn't mean it's at an acceptable healthy level though....

 

What has happened to provoke you to ask the question Sir?

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Over jealous is bad!!!

 

If people in general don't get a little jealous sometimes people will think they don't care.

 

I'm a little jealous, I like a little jealousy in a guy :)

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Jealousy is almost always a negative thing.

 

The important thing is how you react when the feeling is present. Your subsequent actions will determine your character IMO.

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A little bit of jealousy is completely normal and human nature. It's how we react to it that determines whether it is healthy or not. You should trust the person you are with that they will make the right choices.

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Jealousy demonstrates a lack of trust in your partner, an insecurity in yourself and your relationship and a need for drama.....so, it isn't bad, just useless unless you like women who think it is a gauge of how much you like them rather than how little you trust them.

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A bit of jealousy is human nature and can be harmless. :)

 

Not yelling doesn't mean it's at an acceptable healthy level though....

 

What has happened to provoke you to ask the question Sir?

 

 

nothing happened, it's just a common thing. I know if I get a phone call and don't answer(usually work or a telemarketer) my girlfriend will ask "whos calling" and she says it in a tone of suspicion . doesn't bother me but that could be considered a sign

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yeah i think everyone may have experienced at least once.

 

but it is a bad thing. because it go's allot with selfishness and bad things people do

because they are jealous.

 

 

it goes both ways. if i saw my girlfriend with a guy she works with laughing it up and talking, I would feel a bit jealous. I think thats normal but it's how you respnd to it

 

if i went up and told her she shouldnt be talking to him that would be absurd

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Jealousy Versus Love

 

I do hope you are not one of the people that confuse jealousy for love and believe that jealousy is a good trait because to a large extent, it is the jealous men that brutalize and abuse their wives and lovers.

 

Love is trust. Jealousy is suspicion.

 

Love is the basis for confidence and high self-esteem. Jealousy is envy and lack of self worth.

 

Love is warm, tender and compassionate. Jealousy is rage.

 

Love is forgiving. Jealousy is unforgiving.

 

Men that love will lift their wives and lovers to the sky and give them freedom to be all that they can be. Jealous men control and confine, and will pull down their wives and girlfriends to their level and trample them under their feet. As a result, women that are loved will live up to expectations. Wives and lovers, who are belittled and subjected to constant defamation, tend to live down to the suspicions of jealous men

 

Love gives the confidence and self-assurance for men to have pride when other men show admiration toward their wives and lovers. Jealous men are fearful and envious of the same admiration.

 

Men that love will risk their lives to protect their wives from any real harm. Jealous men will beat their wives and threaten other men over imaginary fears.

 

Now, none of the above implies that love will be blind to the facts. Nor does it mean that a boyfriend or loving husband will accept infidelity.

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I understand it can be a bad thing but doesn't everyone get a bit jealous? i'll admit i do. I don't control my girlfriend but I do get a bit jealous. If I see a guy maybe hitting on her I get a bit jealous but I never get mad or yell at her or anything

 

If you're not letting it poison your relationship, and it's merely a rush of the green-eyed monster and then gone, it's not a big deal.

 

If it's dictating your behaviour, if you're hurting your partner with it, if it's keeping you awake at night, it's nothing short of a cancer on your relationship. I've said this before, jealousy is the only emotion that gives nothing and takes everything. Anger and sadness have catharsis at their end, but jealousy is just poison.

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