markmartinisfast Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 i text my girlfriend "morning" or some variation of it every day. some people might find that annoying but she has never said that, and she usually responds. There's those random days though where she doesn't and it really annoys me. I will see her on facebook and she doesn't reply to my text. Should I say something to her about it or just let it be Link to post Share on other sites
babycakees Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 No. Let it be. You are making something out of nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
dropofwind Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 I agree, you shouldn't worry about it! If you want you can not send those text for a day or two and see what she does, maybe she will say something to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 You're busy. You have a life. So much of a life you'd never worry about something little like this . That's what you need to project. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 If you send this every morning it's a bit like junk mail. She could love you to the ends of the earth. But 'morning' is kinda predictable and boring. If she doesn't always reply you can drop it and just say hello later on in the day. She possibly won't notice if you don't send it. I wouldn't. I am busy waking up and getting showered, ready for work and to work in the mornings. I'd rather hear later in the day that you had a fantastic meeting and your boss thanked you and thought you did a great job. Link to post Share on other sites
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 i text my girlfriend "morning" or some variation of it every day. some people might find that annoying but she has never said that, and she usually responds. There's those random days though where she doesn't and it really annoys me. I will see her on facebook and she doesn't reply to my text. Should I say something to her about it or just let it be I haaaaaaaate it when that happens in general. Let it be though, no point in starting a bonfire over something fairly small Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 I'm so glad I'm old and didn't have all the things they have today. In my day if you weren't at home and had to call your girlfriend to say "morning", you better have a dime in your pocket and a pay phone nearby. I mean, I like having a cell phone and it's a great tool to have but it doesn't mean that the first thing you have to do is text someone to say good morning. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't make a biggie out of it. Hell, if you want to get down to it, I don't know how to text. I just make a phone call if needed and if my phone rings, I answer it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author markmartinisfast Posted March 15, 2014 Author Share Posted March 15, 2014 i don't do it first thing in the morning. Link to post Share on other sites
Author markmartinisfast Posted March 15, 2014 Author Share Posted March 15, 2014 I haaaaaaaate it when that happens in general. Let it be though, no point in starting a bonfire over something fairly small i hate it to because it's like, ok you can be on faceboon but can't send a text saying morning? it's just annoying Link to post Share on other sites
OhThatGirl Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 If you don't like that she sometimes ignores your "morning" text... Stop sending them to her. It's not worth being frustrated about and you have the power to change the series of events that annoy you. I dated someone that would send "Good morning sunshine!" texts a couple times a week. I loved it. Sometimes I wouldn't respond for hours though because it was usually as I was getting settled in to work and getting my day started. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 Mountain out of a molehill, buddy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I disagree with everybody else. Purposely ignoring a text is rude. It would take 2 seconds to reply good morning back. You are in a relationship for a reason, if replying and attentive text from her boyfriend is too hard then she should remain single. In a relationship we have to be considerate of our partner's wants and needs. She may not need a good morning each day BUT YOU DO and she should be sensitive to what *you* need! This relationship is not about her only and how she wants it to be. My ex-boyfriend text me good morning each day without fail. I replied back good morning and have a nice day, then we both went to our day. That's all the man needed to have a good morning at work and I was happy to provide it to him. If your girlfriend cannot do this to you, then how is she going to provide the bigger wants and needs? People that don't want to make efforts should not be in relationships. I have a feeling this is not everything she is inconsiderate about. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Gottabestrong Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I would never ignore my boyfriend's texts. It might take me a few hours to reply, especially if I am busy, but I am definitely going to reply at some point. Are you saying she does not reply at all? Even hours late? If so, that is rude to me. Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I think Gaeta has made a good point. How important is her responding to your 'good morning' text? You have to pick your battles in any relationship. Why not change it up and give her a phone call instead one morning? Link to post Share on other sites
Chalkdust89 Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I disagree with everybody else. Purposely ignoring a text is rude. It would take 2 seconds to reply good morning back. You are in a relationship for a reason, if replying and attentive text from her boyfriend is too hard then she should remain single. In a relationship we have to be considerate of our partner's wants and needs. She may not need a good morning each day BUT YOU DO and she should be sensitive to what *you* need! This relationship is not about her only and how she wants it to be. My ex-boyfriend text me good morning each day without fail. I replied back good morning and have a nice day, then we both went to our day. That's all the man needed to have a good morning at work and I was happy to provide it to him. If your girlfriend cannot do this to you, then how is she going to provide the bigger wants and needs? People that don't want to make efforts should not be in relationships. I have a feeling this is not everything she is inconsiderate about. The question is, has she been made aware that you need a text every morning? What about the days where she doesn't look at her phone, or it doesn't come through until later, or she looks at it quickly and then forgets to respond? I don't think it's fair to automatically assume that she's being purposely disrespectful by not responding. If someone texts me "hey" and I'm in the middle of other things, I'm not going to drop what I'm doing to say "hey" back because I don't have time to start a casual conversation and it's not an urgent matter. I agree with gemmaUK. Sending the same type of message every day is like junk mail, and the routine might even be getting boring/annoying for her. Why don't you start changing up what you say, or add a question that encourages/requires her response? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I absolutely agree that we don't all have our nose riveted to our phone but when you do get to your phone you acknowledge the text, you don't leave it there unattended. If I just see a good morning at 1 pm I still reply to it by saying I've been busy didn't see your text till now. This is a text from the person that matters the most to your heart, you do not ignore it! For those tho think it's like junk mail, well then your relationship must be boring and annoying if a good morning from your boyfriend feels like junk mail. I got month and months of *good morning* at exactly 10 a.m. each morning and it never felt like junk mail to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Chalkdust89 Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 The way I see it, some people like routine, other people like variety or changing things up. One isn't better than the other. Maybe your girlfriend doesn't like the routine and would be more responsive if you changed things up every so often. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 OP, here's one way of handling it. Next time you are with her tell her that it may sounds trivial for some people but you do like hearing from her in the morning with a good morning text. You are not looking to monopolize her time with a chat, you just want to touch base with her and be on your way. ....listen what she says. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 then she is not worth his time isn't she? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I never said he demanded anything from her. I suggested he mentions to her his appreciation for a good morning text and he listens to what she has to say about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 hhmm, so it's better for him to play games then to express his feelings on a subject. Great advice guys. If she starts lacking respects in other departments he should shut up too right? I'm sorry but someone ignoring my texts would not get away with it. You acknowledge me or I will find someone else who does. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 It is. Laid back, aloof guys do the best with the most desirable girls. Guys who show too many feelings, especially guys who care too much or show too much emotion end up single for loooooooooooooooooong amounts of time. Coincidence? I do not think so. My mistake, I thought we were talking about adult men and women in relationships working toward a same goal. Did not know we were talking about little games girls and boys play in high school. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 My mistake, I thought we were talking about adult men and women in relationships working toward a same goal. Did not know we were talking about little games girls and boys play in high school. I hear ya, Gaeta. Assertiveness is a quality that is oftentimes not as appreciated as it needs to be. For a relationship to work (not talking about dating - talking about being exclusive and committed) assertiveness is a must. **** the games. OP needs to figure out how important the good morning text replies are and whether he needs to speak up about it. And speak up in an assertive manner. Look it up if you have to. There is strength in being assertive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheKook Posted March 16, 2014 Share Posted March 16, 2014 I agree with Gaeta. It really only take a few seconds to reply to a good morning text of all things. There might be a super rare case where you can't, but otherwise if you can't spare a few seconds to your significant other then something is off. However, I feel it's more realistic that she read it during a busy part of her morning and told herself she'd reply in a few minutes, then forgot. Sometimes I read a text and then forget to reply. It has nothing to do with my feelings for that person, as I've done it to everyone I text at one point or another lol. I wouldn't get too bent out of shape about it, but I definitely understand why you're annoyed. Link to post Share on other sites
Thegreatestthing Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 I love it when I get those morning texts really makes me happy and I always reply. To me not caring about them would be indicative of low interest,someone who apparently loves you can't spare two seconds to greet you back in the morning? Link to post Share on other sites
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