Lonelyyou Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Not sure if this is the right area to post this thread so feel free to move it if necessary . Small introduction, I am 28 years old and have had 2 relationships before, last one ending about 2 years ago. I have since been passively searching for a significant other but with no success. My problem is no girl seems to be interested in me! I don't think I am undesirable. I am not ugly, I have my own car (brand new), a good job in finance that has tremendous promotional potential (if I stick to it, I can break around $300k annually or more), I am well educated (double degree and simultaneously studying a graduate diploma), I live with my parents but I have close to $1 million in personal savings and investments (and still growing) so I can easily buy a house if I choose (I just haven't felt the need at this point). I have no debt, I earn $100k in combined investment and job income at the moment. Financially speaking, I am very comfortable and more than capable of taking care of a partner. I think my weakness is that I am very quiet and am definitely not a confident guy. I find it difficult to make conversation unless I have worked with the other individual for a long time. I have a slim and short build (around 5 feet 6 inches tall) and am Asian (though not sure if these facts are relevant). I admit that I do suffer from depression (due to other personal issues) but am making attempts to rectify that. I don't have any friends and the only other people I talk to other than my family are work colleagues. I am by no means in a rush to meet someone, but it would be nice to at least get a little attention from the ladies for my own self-esteem I guess. I try to talk to girls online but they don't take me seriously. I am too shy to approach girls that I find attractive IRL. I think I know where my problems are and what I need to do to fix them.... so what's the point of this thread? I guess I am just venting. I see several girls I know from uni on facebook complain about their bfs. I message them showing my obvious interest in them but they just make small talk. Anyways, thanks for listening. Poor rittle meeee....
reshmi Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Yes you are right. You know where your problems lie. Being shy and not confident are your issues and you have to work on them. You describe yourself very well and surely have a good image about yourself, you only need to project it out. Also I suggest that you dont try to date immediately but focus on building a friendship with a girl you like first. Once you have her friendship, you will gain enough confidence to sell yourself as something more...because you will have a degree of closeness helping you talk more to her and not be shy. Approach girls casually, not as a means of getting them to date you.
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