When it comes to bad relationships, why is my gender willing to tolerate more?

[fortyninethousand322]

With that attitude you'll never get a girlfriend. And when you do she won't be a good one.

 

Cheating and disrespect are not petty things. Your feelings are what should matter to you the most. Don't ever put a girl above yourself if she isn't willing to do the same for you.

 

And girls don't like guys who are willing to put up with anything just to have a girlfriend. They want men who will put them in their place/leave when they get too disrespectful. Thats why they tend to test your nerves at times. To see just how manly you can really get.

 

I think my attitude is unrelated to whether or not I'll get a girlfriend (or the quality of any girlfriend I might get).

 

Some people are just not good at this stuff. Attitude is irrelevant....

[Medium.Lumo]

I think my attitude is unrelated to whether or not I'll get a girlfriend (or the quality of any girlfriend I might get).

 

Some people are just not good at this stuff. Attitude is irrelevant....

 

Dude, no matter how much you like her or would find it difficult to replace her, if she cheats or disrespects you why would you want to be in a relationship with her?

 

Ok if you really can find it in your heart to forgive her that's one thing, but just because she is a girl she's too valuable to let go is just crazy thinking.

[dragon_fly_7]

First of all many men put up with abuse. MANY men. Difference is most men don't care to talk about it/care too much about it so you rarely hear about it. Most men just suck it up and forge ahead. Especially if the women they are with is the women that they want to be with.

I don't doubt it can happen to a man too but usually it's verbal and emotional put-downs, insults or rantings. I doubt any man would stay years into the relationship or marriage if the woman also assaulted him physically and still excusing it with an ''Oh maybe I provoked her, what did I do wrong'' or endlessly hopes she'll change like many physically abused women do. Edited March 17, 2014 by dragon_fly_7

[AntiSocal]

I don't doubt it can happen to a man too but usually it's verbal and emotional put-downs, insults or rantings. I doubt any man would stay years into the relationship or marriage if the woman also assaulted him physically and still excusing it with an ''Oh maybe I provoked her, what did I do wrong'' or endlessly hopes she'll change like many physically abused women do.

 

I know men who are in relationships with women who physically abuse them. I have been in relationships with girls who hit me. The difference is that when a man hits a women she can't do nearly as much damage so its not really as big of a deal. Not talked about as much. And a lot of dudes just brush it off and go "oh shes feisty, but i can't hit a girl back"

 

Also a lot of these relationships where the man is the so called "abuser" its the women who is starting the fights and the man who is finishing them. I know a few girls who always try and fight their boyfriends. And those girls always end up in "abusive" relationships because they'll provoke the guy until he ends up hitting them back. And when a man hits a women the damage is much more devastating.