Ivy87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I've known a guy for a few months now (we work together), and we're kind of friends. Every time he sees me, he comes to say Hi and flatters me often. At one point, about a month ago, he suggested I go to dinner with him via email. I said "Yes" and he never emailed back. A few days later I ran into him and we were both very embarrassed. But he never mentioned dinner, as if he never suggested it. I said nothing as well. A few more days later, we started emailing again- just friendly messages. In an email he sent a week ago, he asked what are my plans for the weekend. I said I have no plans and asked about his. He didn't answer. I decided I had enough, and wanted to know once and for all if he's interested or not (in case he was shy or something). So I asked him if he would like to have a drink with me sometime. His answer: Yeah, we should probably go out for a drink. Just this one line. A week went by since then. I guess I'm supposed to read between the lines and realize he's not interested, but I just don't understand his erratic behavior. Why did he ask me out in the first place and then said nothing? And what does "should probably" mean?
slizl Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 If you have a vagina, he is probably interested in it.
Gaeta Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 He is not interested. He probably did that initially just to check if you'd agree to flatter his ego or to verify if you were interested in him as he suspected.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 He's not into it. As another posted suggested, he probably wanted to boost his ego when he suggested dinner. Just seeing if you're interested. And I'd take "should probably" to mean "thanks, but no thanks" from this guy. He couldn't be showing less initiative if he tried.
Assasda Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I dont think he's interested in you romantically. He may want to be your friend, but I think something turned him off romantically about the situation
Stay Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I don't understand his behavior either by not responding, maybe just like others said and feeding his ego but never following through. If someone is interested, you'll know it. They will want to see you as much as you'd like to see them.
Author Ivy87 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 These are not the answers I wished for, but they are what I expected. I guess I knew it myself, I just hoped there is an optimistic way to view things. Seeing him will be awkward, for sure...
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