Still in Pain from Her Cheating On Me [update- enacted revenge]

[Sugarkane]

Is he polygamous or just a captain save a ho? It's interesting what completely different answers you can get here. I've had a similar experience but never met up with an ex, let alone slept with them. Yet no one suggested contacting the gf. I really wished I had. The problem is they usually don't believe anything you say.

[Csmith224422]

It is weird - again, he know she made a sex tape with me behind his back. So strange .. .

[Csmith224422]

My ex cheated on me. She lied to me about being in a relationship when I met her and was seeing both of us at the same time. She had been with the other guy for 2+ years before meeting me. She then broke up with the other guy and saw me for a few months. The other guy promised to change - he had commitment issues. She then she sees both of us again for two months and then breaks up with me.

 

I KNEW NOTHING about this until after we broke up. AGAIN - I KNEW NOTHING. SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS SINGLE. I found out the truth from the other guy. Now she's with him. They got engaged. I feel so hurt. I checked her facebook recently and she has a pick of them together lying in bed and I hear that she's moving in with him. I know I need to stop the cyber stalking. Even if I did that, it still hurts so much. Its been awhile since we were together but I think about her every day. We haven't spoken in 5 months.

 

It hurts so much to know that she's with him and gave so little about me. When I found out about the lies. She was so mean to me.

[Chi townD]

Move on, dude. This girl is crazy as hell. She's a cheater and she'll probably cheat again on this guy. Not your problem anymore. She's his problem to worry about where she's going and who's she talking to....blah....blah....

 

Move on and try to find a SINGLE woman that doesn't have any baggage.

[Csmith224422]

I don't meet many women. . . and Im so angry that she got what she wanted by using me. She's happy with him and Im all alone.

[Chi townD]

I don't meet many women. . . and Im so angry that she got what she wanted by using me. She's happy with him and Im all alone.

 

So, change that! Put yourself out there! There are more women on this planet then there are men. So, go out and meet them! Hell, I'm sure that you have guy friends that have girlfriends. Those girlfriends, I'm pretty sure they have single girlfriends that they know. Network it dude!

[FortunateSon]

I don't meet many women. . . and Im so angry that she got what she wanted by using me. She's happy with him and Im all alone.

You dodged a bullet. If you think she is going to be happy after all of this cheating/drama, you are mistaken. It is only a matter of time until she does it again...

[April Moon]

Hi OP! I used to think like you. I used to be so upset because of how unfair it was that my ex got to be happy with someone else while I was sad without him. I didn't understand why he played dirty and got to be happy but I did the right thing and was sad. However, I came to realize that cheaters are never really happy. They may think for some time that they are. People who cheat are looking to fulfill something that is missing. They rarely have the insight that whatever they are missing is coming from the inside. They rely on other people to make them happy. Once those other people no longer find what used to temporarily fulfill them, they move on. They are on a constant quest and are never truly happy.

[No Limit]

Get the champagne, you just got rid of a slut and breeding ground for STDs.

Feeling sorry for the other guy though, he'll probably envy you in a couple of months.

[Csmith224422]

I know i shouldn't care but I do....It makes me so upset that she's with him.

[ponchsox]

Don't take it personally. Cheaters will cheat on anyone, not just you. She did you a favor.

[lovehurtsme91]

I know how you feel as I was cheated on as well.

 

All I can say continue NC. Cyber stalking her and her current is not gonna do you any good. All you will get out of it is you being hurt even more and why put yourself into that position?

 

Agree with ponchsoz, once a cheater, always a cheater. Saying the word "move on" is easier said than done but the first step you need to do is to stop cyber stalking her so that you can fully heal.

 

You will find someone better, someone who would never do this to you again

[flitzanu]

so which is it that bothers you more, the fact that she left you finally, or the fact that she was banging you and another dude at the same time?

[Csmith224422]

It all bothers me.

[johnson_j]

Man you must be my twin. Similar situation happened to me recently. Let me just say this - it SUCKS.

 

 

Nothing any of us can say will change it. You feel hurt and used, and angry because she appears happy with the other guy whom you lost her to. But I'm here to tell you something.

 

 

You didn't lose SQUAT.

 

 

(Well maybe - you've lost the fighting, the trying to please a girl who is never happy, and you're paying now for the heartache that will be so much worse in another year or two)

 

 

She sounds like my ex. You know something? My ex says she is happy with the new guy and she "feels the love". I hate to break it, but I doubt it will last. If he's smart, he's just tagging it for a bit and he'll drop her just like I wish I had a long time ago. But I decided to play "saver" and be there while she was creating unnecessary drama and inflicting pain on her own and my life, only to have the lies revealed later and realize the only one who needed saving was myself (from that situation).

 

 

Do what I did - I pray for my ex, she will need all the help she can get.