Sjdunn1990 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I found out my partner of 8 years had been cheating on me for 4 months. He got another girl pregnant and has basically left me for her. I found it very hard to adjust and cope at first. I had no contact with him or his family. His family got back in contact with me however and my ex started texting me and his texts have become more frequent - at one point every morning. I miss him and enjoy texting him. I no it can't go any further as there is a kid involved and to many trust issues. We had a long texting session 3 days ago and then he hasn't contacted me at all since and actually ignored a text I sent. I don't understand his behaviour. Please help. I feel so hurt he is ignoring me. I feel like he has forgotten me and it feels like a break up all over again. Yes I no I shouldn't text - but I can't help but reply to his :/ he was my best friend after all and our relationship had kinda become more a friendship. I don't hate him, or love him. I do miss him tho. Help
SoleMate Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I'd like to answer, but even more so I recommend you change your user name and avatar photo and location to something unrecognizable.
Author Sjdunn1990 Posted March 16, 2014 Author Posted March 16, 2014 Well I've changed my pic but can't change my user name.
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 If you have a child together you are correct, you can't go NC. Stop the long texting. He has made a choice & unfortunately, it's not you. Limit your interactions to discussions about your child. As much as it hurts & it probably is a 2nd break up, you have to make peace with the fact that it is over
sidney2718 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 Run! Run faster! There is a baby involved. That baby is NOT going away. Your ex belongs with the woman he knocked up and not with you. Think what happens if you do get back together with him. You have a child probably 50% of the time. A child to whom you are unrelated and who will remind you every day that your boy friend is a cheater and worse, a louse who impregnated a woman and then abandoned her. Is this what you want out of life? 1
scorpio1978 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 He texts you for the same reason you respond- familiarity. You don't understand his actions, but here it is: you were a part of his life for 8 years and it's hard to cut that off completely. He doesn't want a relationship with you. He made that clear when he began an affair with someone else. He started pulling away long ago before he had relations with this woman. Now that she is pregnant, he is with her and will likely stay with her. It's only a matter of time before he starts to fade away, especially after the baby is born. It's better to sever all ties now. He disrespected you and your relationship and you allow him to continue doing it by having contact with you. I am sorry, but I wouldn't want a "friend" like that. He should not get the option of talking to you after what he did and I am sure the mother of his child would not appreciate the communication also. This guy has bad character 1
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