what happened to my relationship?

[wildsun]

I was in a relationship with a girl for 2 years, we were long distance and it worked for us since I'm in school and she's in the military. We had made plans for me to move after graduating from college, we'd discussed marriage, and the move was supposed to happen in January. I spent Christmas with her, and became aware that she had become very very close with a friend of hers. This friend spent every day with us, and my ex wanted to spend every day at this friend's house. I came home in the beginning of January with plans to move at the end of the month, and she ended up breaking up with me (at the end of the month), telling me she just "didn't feel the same about our relationship." Last week I found out she'd been telling her friend she was in love with her since the day I came home from Christmas with her, they've been together since we broke up. We had the most incredible relationship, she and I fit each other. I don't understand what happened, she was so excited to have me move there and we were so happy. I tried talking to her about what was going on, but she always ended up getting angry and wouldn't talk about it. The most hurtful thing was that she wasn't the person who told me she'd been in a relationship, someone who lives near her told me. I love her, but know I can't reach out. Did she actually fall in love with this friend? How was it so easy for her to cut me out of her life?

[flightplan]

School of life my friend. It happens. Get a head start and don't even try to analyze it, but we know you will. It's human nature. The simple fact is, she was feeling it more for someone else than she was with you. It hurts. It sucks. We know. But it is what it is. The best advice I can give you is cut all ties. Disappear. You basically need to go into your own witness protection program. It'll be hard. It'll be brutal. Come on these boards and vent. Whatever you do, get away from her and put her in your rear view. Don't reach out. DO NOT BEG. Keep your dignity and begin the healing process. The sooner the better. Good luck.