letgo6 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 hi everyone! After 10 years in a relationship, my ex dumped me to be with someone else. We broke up exactly one year today. I tried to go NC a couple of times, break it and NC again. They broke up 2 months ago..I reached out to her, as a friend but of course I still have feelings...but after a few weeks, they got back together. I feel empty now. She dumped me 2 times for the same person. Feels like our 10 years is nothing to her. I decided to go NC again. On my 5th day, she text me asking me if we could talk and on the same day I received an emailed from her asking me if we could see each other. She told me that she really miss me..I reply telling her that I need space to sort things out and that I'll be back if I can give the friendship that she wants...someday.. No reply from her. I really want to move on, its been a year. Tomorrow its my day 1 of NC again. I hope I can finally let her go. Im not angry with her, I know I made some mistakes when we're still together.. She also said sorry for what she did.. We both forgive each other, I just hope someday that I can look at her without feeling this pain anymore..im tired of crying.
StubbornSam Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Sorry for your loss, again. 10 years is a very long time. The longer you were together the longer it takes to get over them I think. Stay strong and positive. We're all going through it too. It ****ing sucks.
somecamel Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 hi everyone! After 10 years in a relationship, my ex dumped me to be with someone else. We broke up exactly one year today. I tried to go NC a couple of times, break it and NC again. Have you been Friend Zoned? They broke up 2 months ago..I reached out to her, as a friend but of course I still have feelings...but after a few weeks, they got back together. I feel empty now. She dumped me 2 times for the same person. Feels like our 10 years is nothing to her. How did you know they'd broken up? Why are you even in this woman's life anymore after what she done to you? I decided to go NC again. On my 5th day, she text me asking me if we could talk and on the same day I received an emailed from her asking me if we could see each other. She told me that she really miss me..I reply telling her that I need space to sort things out and that I'll be back if I can give the friendship that she wants...someday.. No reply from her. What the bloody hell is she playing at? She's back with this other guy, the one she cheated? on you for? and she's kept you there, stringing you along. I really want to move on, its been a year. Tomorrow its my day 1 of NC again. I hope I can finally let her go. Im not angry with her, I know I made some mistakes when we're still together.. She also said sorry for what she did.. We both forgive each other, I just hope someday that I can look at her without feeling this pain anymore..im tired of crying. You can't move on because she won't let you, it really is that simple. Your day 1 of NC will keep on being reset because she will break it, NC is for you, you're the one that was hurt. Be strong, block her number, depending on your phone you can do that, remove social networking, Create a 'rule' in your email so any emails from her email address are automatically deleted. (I done this). What other stuff do you have in your life that can throw yourself into?
KaliLove Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 You can't move on because she won't let you, it really is that simple. Your day 1 of NC will keep on being reset because she will break it, NC is for you, you're the one that was hurt. Be strong, block her number, depending on your phone you can do that, remove social networking, Create a 'rule' in your email so any emails from her email address are automatically deleted. (I done this). What other stuff do you have in your life that can throw yourself into? I have to disagree with this. Someone cannot stop someone else from moving on. He is choosing to continue to check up on her. OP, you know what you need to do to make the pain stop. Do it.
somecamel Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I have to disagree with this. Someone cannot stop someone else from moving on. He is choosing to continue to check up on her. OP, you know what you need to do to make the pain stop. Do it. She doesn't want him but doesn't want anyone else to have him. She's not giving him the space he has asked for.
KaliLove Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 She doesn't want him but doesn't want anyone else to have him. She's not giving him the space he has asked for. So? He could block her or ignore her and he is choosing not to. He is no longer a victim, he is a volunteer for this pain.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I have to disagree with this. Someone cannot stop someone else from moving on. He is choosing to continue to check up on her. OP, you know what you need to do to make the pain stop. Do it. Have to agree with this. I stopped contacting my ex but still checked on him via Facebook and other means. It wasn't until I stopped everything that I began to envision myself free I'm free - 8 months from that point
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