LazyTee Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 My ex broke up with me, her reasons were respected by me. Nevertheless she went straight out to date again and slept with a friend 2 days after the breakup, now she's trying to make it work. Playing dirty: What I'm doing now is being her 'friend' I'm just showing her how good I can treat her, she's falling for it. I had sex with her, now her emotions is confused. After that, I didn't really talk to her. She was 'craving' me, I did the 'dumpee' left breadcrumbs, she always want to hang around with me but I'm trying to play hard to get. Now she wants me back. I just wanted to let you know, yes this is messed up but eh. Everyone has their way, this happens to be mine. I was a sweet guy, very sweet guy, now she made me become too scared to love again and so I'm starting to play with peoples emotions which I admit is f'ing fun.
Snow101 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 way to take the high road man. This is a toxic mess you're in. My two cents- get out of this and stop ****in around. This kind of behavior is why so many people are messed up and dating is such a minefield. 1
KaliLove Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 OP..how old are you? You sound 15. Your ex wanting you is temporary. No woman will ever want you if you behave like this. Your ex will get sick of your nonsense after a while and she'll walk away, and so will every other woman you try to be with until you stop being a jerk. 1
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 By doing this the only one you hurt is you in the long run. Stop behaving like this because it's toxic. 1
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 My ex broke up with me, her reasons were respected by me. Nevertheless she went straight out to date again and slept with a friend 2 days after the breakup, now she's trying to make it work. Playing dirty: What I'm doing now is being her 'friend' I'm just showing her how good I can treat her, she's falling for it. I had sex with her, now her emotions is confused. After that, I didn't really talk to her. She was 'craving' me, I did the 'dumpee' left breadcrumbs, she always want to hang around with me but I'm trying to play hard to get. Now she wants me back. I just wanted to let you know, yes this is messed up but eh. Everyone has their way, this happens to be mine. I was a sweet guy, very sweet guy, now she made me become too scared to love again and so I'm starting to play with peoples emotions which I admit is f'ing fun. You can't blame someone else of you want to act like a jerk. You act like a jerk all on your own. Mature people can be hurt, and learn, and love again. You're just making excuses. What are you, 12?
Radu Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 My ex broke up with me, her reasons were respected by me. Nevertheless she went straight out to date again and slept with a friend 2 days after the breakup, now she's trying to make it work. Playing dirty: What I'm doing now is being her 'friend' I'm just showing her how good I can treat her, she's falling for it. I had sex with her, now her emotions is confused. After that, I didn't really talk to her. She was 'craving' me, I did the 'dumpee' left breadcrumbs, she always want to hang around with me but I'm trying to play hard to get. Now she wants me back. I just wanted to let you know, yes this is messed up but eh. Everyone has their way, this happens to be mine. I was a sweet guy, very sweet guy, now she made me become too scared to love again and so I'm starting to play with peoples emotions which I admit is f'ing fun. When she broke up with you, she did it because she already wanted that guy, and wanted to play the field, without feeling bad. So she is what is called a serial monogamist. It is not technically cheating, but it is also not technically ok [depending on your values]. Considering what she did ... feel free to do this to her, but don't fall for her.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 My ex broke up with me, her reasons were respected by me. Nevertheless she went straight out to date again and slept with a friend 2 days after the breakup, now she's trying to make it work. Playing dirty: What I'm doing now is being her 'friend' I'm just showing her how good I can treat her, she's falling for it. I had sex with her, now her emotions is confused. After that, I didn't really talk to her. She was 'craving' me, I did the 'dumpee' left breadcrumbs, she always want to hang around with me but I'm trying to play hard to get. Now she wants me back. I just wanted to let you know, yes this is messed up but eh. Everyone has their way, this happens to be mine. I was a sweet guy, very sweet guy, now she made me become too scared to love again and so I'm starting to play with peoples emotions which I admit is f'ing fun. I hope you feel really really proud of yourself. While she ended it for a reason and with this vile post I can see another reason why, you understood until she was no longer having sex with you!!!! She was free and single - she can have sex with anyone she likes. As much as it hurts to be the dumped... In this case being the dumper will hurt you. Shame on you for upsetting her just because your ego is hurt! Get over yourself!
d0nnivain Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I was a sweet guy, very sweet guy, now she made me become too scared to love again and so I'm starting to play with peoples emotions which I admit is f'ing fun. Playing with her emotions is bad enough. Behaving like a jerk & using other people is really messed up. I doubt you were ever a nice guy. A genuine nice guy wouldn't use other people just to make himself feel better. She didn't make you do this. You are doing this because you get a perverse thrill out of it. Before you continue the pattern, think about how you would feel if some other guy did this to your sister or your future daughter. Grow up.
No Limit Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 As much as I enjoy revenge, that kind of behavior affects you too. Don't let your ex win after all. 1
Author LazyTee Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 'Act my age'? I never knew there was an targeted age to get revenge on someone. If someone was playing mind games with you to begin with would you no want a him of justice? That's what this is. 1
David87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 'Act my age'? I never knew there was an targeted age to get revenge on someone. If someone was playing mind games with you to begin with would you no want a him of justice? That's what this is. Your best revenge is to be happy on your own and show that your happiness doesn't depend on how other people feel about you. 2
disclosure Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 'Act my age'? I never knew there was an targeted age to get revenge on someone. If someone was playing mind games with you to begin with would you no want a him of justice? That's what this is. The best revenge is moving on. But if you want to be immature as **** and stoop to her level (or what you seem to think is her level), then go ahead. Hope you get the satisfaction out of it that you are looking for. (but really I hope it backfires)
Author LazyTee Posted March 17, 2014 Author Posted March 17, 2014 That is true, I understand stooping to someone's level isn't so great, and by all means it shows that I have not moved on. That is the thing, if I stooped to her level, I would of punched the guy up but I didn't, I tried to vent this anger out somehow through gym (didn't work), getting high (I do not like being high), working, doing my hobby, nothing seems to get rid of this pent up anger I have, and what's worse my flatmates and friends that live together with them and me, keep bringing up the subject 'if i were you i would of ****ed him up' I told them to cool it but it juste gets so awkward. And to have no respect and show me 'their affection' in front of me and the friends (everyone thinks is weird and very rude to how soon the breakup was. I can't help it that I have this temper.
disclosure Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 That is true, I understand stooping to someone's level isn't so great, and by all means it shows that I have not moved on. That is the thing, if I stooped to her level, I would of punched the guy up but I didn't, I tried to vent this anger out somehow through gym (didn't work), getting high (I do not like being high), working, doing my hobby, nothing seems to get rid of this pent up anger I have, and what's worse my flatmates and friends that live together with them and me, keep bringing up the subject 'if i were you i would of ****ed him up' I told them to cool it but it juste gets so awkward. And to have no respect and show me 'their affection' in front of me and the friends (everyone thinks is weird and very rude to how soon the breakup was. I can't help it that I have this temper. Honestly man, showing that you absolutely don't give a **** is the best revenge. And I don't mean you have to hang out and act like you are cool with the situation, but go no contact, move on with your life and act like you don't give a **** about what she does. She was rebounding, ****ty that she chose a friend, but that often happens after a break up.
David87 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 That is true, I understand stooping to someone's level isn't so great, and by all means it shows that I have not moved on. That is the thing, if I stooped to her level, I would of punched the guy up but I didn't, I tried to vent this anger out somehow through gym (didn't work), getting high (I do not like being high), working, doing my hobby, nothing seems to get rid of this pent up anger I have, and what's worse my flatmates and friends that live together with them and me, keep bringing up the subject 'if i were you i would of ****ed him up' I told them to cool it but it juste gets so awkward. And to have no respect and show me 'their affection' in front of me and the friends (everyone thinks is weird and very rude to how soon the breakup was. I can't help it that I have this temper. Show everybody that you're the bigger man here. I know it's hard but imagine how would every body felt if you had a super hot girlfriend now and didn't give a cra* about your ex and her douchebag. Focus on that for a change.
KaliLove Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 (edited) OP, she didn't owe you anything. Sure, it sucks that she slept with your friend, but she's free to open her legs to whomever she wants and you have absolutely no right to do or say anything about it. She's not your girlfriend anymore, she wasn't cheating on you. Beating the ***** out of him isn't going to do anything except get you arrested. Edited March 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
chir Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Hi lazy tee, if you are feeling so good and proud of yourself I doubt you will post in this forum. Every individual have their own ways of healing, protecting themselves. I can only say.. If what you are doing makes you truly happy go ahead.. i don't agree but i doubt I can stop you anyway. If you are feeling pain despite trying to deceive yourself you are having great fun. Maybe you should stop and ask yourself .. are you hurting yourself.. you lose her and is painful. All of us here can agree how painful it is to lose that special someone. However take a moment, what you are doing. . Does it makes you lose yourself? There is the worst thing to happen after losing that special someone. Again, if you are truly happy with the 'revenge' go ahead nobody will be able to stop you anyway. Else stop. Go NC .. find yourself back.. by then you can decide to give her a 2nd chance or move on. . Be well please .....
William Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 The report read 'civility check?' and moderation did some cleanup and reminds members to indeed check their civility and to address the thread starter. Thanks!
Author LazyTee Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 I can see what I'm doing is childish and everyone says 'Be the bigger person'. I tried doing so but why do I always feel so angry at times? It feels as though someone took money from you and decided not to pay back but then have the cheek to take some more later on. What am I suppose to do? Just leave the person be and move on? Its like I was taken advantage of but yet I do not know... I don't know how to react towards this certain situation, all I feel is wanting revenge by hurting the party that hurt me in some way. Fair enough moving on and showing that person that I have a better life now is a good way to look at it but what I see in my eyes is the fact that the person used me like tissue then just threw me away with no care in the world.
Chi townD Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 'Act my age'? I never knew there was an targeted age to get revenge on someone. If someone was playing mind games with you to begin with would you no want a him of justice? That's what this is. The best revenge you can get is to live your life well. When your revenge is to screw with people and their emotions, you're the one that's going to hurt in the end. You said that she changed you from being a nice guy into a douche rocket and you're okay with it. Well, guess what? She won, not you.
Author LazyTee Posted March 19, 2014 Author Posted March 19, 2014 The best revenge you can get is to live your life well. When your revenge is to screw with people and their emotions, you're the one that's going to hurt in the end. You said that she changed you from being a nice guy into a douche rocket and you're okay with it. Well, guess what? She won, not you. How did she win?
Chi townD Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Fair enough moving on and showing that person that I have a better life now is a good way to look at it but what I see in my eyes is the fact that the person used me like tissue then just threw me away with no care in the world. Okay, so you got played! You got burned! Like you're the only person in the world that's ever happened to? So, you think that being passive and ignoring her makes you feel like she got a free pass for treating you like dirt? Here's the thing, one day she's going to grow up and she going to want a "Nice guy" that's going to treat her right and treat her like a girlfriend should be treated. Then, she's going to remember you and what she threw away. And by then it's too late. You're gone an another girl is going to feel like sending your Ex a thank you card. But, for most girls, Douchebag syndrome gets old really quick and then she'll have no problem walking away and never giving you a second thought because, well....you were a douchebag and not the "Nice guy" she remembered.
Strength in Healing Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You have to listen to the ones who say the person who is going to end up hurt is YOU. Let that sink in. You can think you're enacting revenge, but in the end, when she realizes what you're doing, she is going to see you as a fool and someone she regrets EVER dating. You will feel more alone than ever, and your revenge will have only been on yourself. I feel for you. My ex fiance of 4 years left me and started talking to another guy. You don't win by staying involved, my friend, you don't win that way. You are losing and taking revenge on yourself.
Chi townD Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 How did she win? Because she screwed with your head so much that she changed you into something you know damn good and well that you're not. You're not holding on to the values that made you who you are! Maybe she didn't appreciate that, but I GUARANTEE you there are a TON of girls who would!! 1
KaliLove Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 I can see what I'm doing is childish and everyone says 'Be the bigger person'. I tried doing so but why do I always feel so angry at times? It feels as though someone took money from you and decided not to pay back but then have the cheek to take some more later on. What am I suppose to do? Just leave the person be and move on? Its like I was taken advantage of but yet I do not know... I don't know how to react towards this certain situation, all I feel is wanting revenge by hurting the party that hurt me in some way. Fair enough moving on and showing that person that I have a better life now is a good way to look at it but what I see in my eyes is the fact that the person used me like tissue then just threw me away with no care in the world. Yes. Revenge isn't going to change anything. It won't change what happened in the past and it won't change her as a person, but it sure does make you a giant butt hole. Don't give her so much power over you. Take control of your life back from her.
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