halifax89 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I was at the mall with my girlfriend today when a guy passed us and gave us a smirk. I asked my girlfriend if she knew who that was and she said she did. It was a guy she had slept with a few times before sh emet me. I asked what was the smirk for and she said she didn't know and its not a big deal. I said it seemed like he was being an ass, if he does it again I'll beat his ass. She told me he use to box for like 6 years so it would be a bad idea. I got a bit upset thinking I couldn't take him and we had a little argument. Nothing serious. After a few minutes she apologized and said that she didn;t mean that I was weak, but he has boxed and that he's not the guy to pick a fight with Anyway after this I guess she could be right but should i be upset she doesnt think I could take him?
babycakees Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Just forget about this and move on. These kind of arguments annoy me. Everyone has a past. Move on and forget about it.
Copelandsanity Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 The next time you see him, challenge him to a fight, and report back here 8
d0nnivain Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Have you ever played a game of pick-up basketball on a playground or for your high school? Do you think that will enable you to beat a NBA player in a game of one on one? Same thing here. He is a professionally trained boxer. You are not. Therefore he has an edge. Check your ego at the door before this guy busts your head open. As for your GF, it's not her fault that some immature jerk smirked at her. If she never left your side, this was a non-event except in your insecure mind. Instead of trying to beat the other guy up, bask in the superiority that your GF picked you over him & is happy (except for maybe when you are behaving like a baby). 3
TXGuy Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 While your feelings about this might be understandable, you made a serious mistake by bringing it up or letting it get to you. Your girlfriend's response was perfect. One couldn't have asked for a better response. Your reaction to it was pretty bad. I bet she is rethinking her decision to stay with you. If you want to fight this guy, go for it and report back. I see two likely outcomes, both bad for you. 1) he kicks your ass. You are hurt and embarrassed. Your girlfriend never looks at you the same way again. 2.) you kick his ass (or even a draw) because he made a funny face when walking past you. Here you should be tried and convicted of assault and battery. You don't get to kick someone's ass for smirking in your general direction. You might assume he won't report it and press charges, but I sure would. I'd even throw in a civil suit and restraining order on top. Minimum $5k judgment against you. Higher if you actually hurt him. 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I can relate man. That would annoy me/rub me the wrong way too. But getting in a fight with your girl was a bit of misplaced anger on your part. This is one of those things that is best not bickered over with the SO.. rather, discuss/vent it on these forums or sleep on it. Give in a little time and you'll realize it's not really that big of a deal.
SmartDude Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Maybe he smirked because he remembers sleeping with your girl, and recognized her in public. I don't see anything wrong with this guys actions. 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Maybe he smirked because he remembers sleeping with your girl, and recognized her in public. I don't see anything wrong with this guys actions. If i was passing a girl i slept with who was with another guy i wouldn't smirk. I'd either say "hello." or "hello. How've you been?" and kept walking or just not even looked or acknowledged them.
Author halifax89 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Maybe I overreacted but I just didn't like the smirk. it was like he was thinking "really this guy?" and it wasn't a huge argument. she put it good words. she said she doesnt think im weak but this guy was a boxer, i need to realize I can't just beat up anyone. she even told me theres been girls she has been scared of and run from
Keenly Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I'm not a woman, so I cant judge the level of attractiveness, but I can say that it's pretty immature and juvenile for a grown ass man to go into a " I'll beat him up " state of mind. What is this, 7th grade? Are we not adults here? What happened was not a big deal. How you are handling it though.. You know how us goes often joke about how women will take something insignificant and blow it way out of proportion ? You're doing that. 4
Antenna_Of_Destiny Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 There are no rules in a fight, your attitude could get you and your gf shot, killed, raped, etc. And LOL at "slept with a few times" in all likelihood he was balls deep in her many, many times.
kaylan Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) Stupid girlfriend. Why would she tell you she banged the guy? Who the hell likes seeing and knowing the face of the person their partner used to bang? She should have just said it was a friend, and they have an inside joke or something. Or just said it was a weird stranger. In reality I would of had the smarts to ignore an old fling and not acknowledge their presence if my gf was around. I dont need drama and my gf matters, not some chick I used to bang. Also, no need to fight over it unless the guy starts sniffing around her. Edited March 14, 2014 by kaylan 1
ExpatInItaly Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 You didn't make yourself look week, but you did make yourself look immature and insecure. "I'll beat his ass"? Really? That type of highschool mentality is really off-putting. 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Stupid girlfriend. Why would she tell you she banged the guy? Who the hell likes seeing and knowing the face of the person their partner used to bang? She should have just said it was a friend, and they have an inside joke or something. Or just said it was a weird stranger. In reality I would of had the smarts to ignore an old fling and not acknowledge their presence if my gf was around. I dont need drama and my gf matters, not some chick I used to bang. Also, no need to fight over it unless the guy starts sniffing around her. Agree. She should have said "oh some guy i dated for a little." No need to mention the whole "Some guy i banged a few times"
Trimmer Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I was at the mall with my girlfriend today when a guy passed us and gave us a smirk. I asked my girlfriend if she knew who that was and she said she did. It was a guy she had slept with a few times before sh emet me. I asked what was the smirk for and she said she didn't know and its not a big deal. I said it seemed like he was being an ass, if he does it again I'll beat his ass. She told me he use to box for like 6 years so it would be a bad idea. I got a bit upset thinking I couldn't take him and we had a little argument. Nothing serious. After a few minutes she apologized and said that she didn;t mean that I was weak, but he has boxed and that he's not the guy to pick a fight with Anyway after this I guess she could be right but should i be upset she doesnt think I could take him? So you got irritated at the smirk (understandable) and your solution was to "beat his ass." Then you got upset thinking maybe you couldn't "beat his ass", and then got further upset and commenced an argument because your girlfriend didn't think you could "beat his ass" (which objectively is quite possibly true...) I have to agree with the other posters: are you posting this from the computer in your high school library before you have to run off to gym class? How old are all of you? You said Mr. Smirky Boxer has been boxing for 6 years, so I assume you all must be at least 8 or 9 years old - can you clarify? And LOL at "slept with a few times" in all likelihood he was balls deep in her many, many times. Ha ha... nice of you to go easy and try to make the OP feel better! Agree. She should have said "oh some guy i dated for a little." No need to mention the whole "Some guy i banged a few times" No kidding.. It makes me wonder - in spite of how she seems to have been "the reasonable one" and calmed down the OP afterward - whether she was stirring up a little drama, poking her boyfriend, to see how he'd react. Nothing like a little stirred-up jealousy to make a girlfriend feel validated.
tylerskaggs Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I understand the op being annoyed by the guy smirking. yes he shouldn't have said "i'll beat his ass" but if I know i wouldnt be to happy
Author halifax89 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 I should have laughed it off but i didn't ..oh well now
soccerrprp Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 You didn't make yourself look week, but you did make yourself look immature and insecure. "I'll beat his ass"? Really? That type of highschool mentality is really off-putting. I agree with this. And, btw, his boxing skills best benefit him if you BOX with him. :-)
mattyarnold Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 I'll take the op side here. I'm a guy and I sort of have the whole "i can take anyone in a fight" though i really can't. if a guy smirked at me and my girlfriend (a guy she use to see) i would be pretty annoyed to
Do_The_Herp Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 There are no rules in a fight, your attitude could get you and your gf shot, killed, raped, etc. And LOL at "slept with a few times" in all likelihood he was balls deep in her many, many times. Why be like that, with that unnecessary comment? Even if OP's overreacted, we didn't need to picture that. The guy he's talking about sounds like an immature prick, but hey, unless he's going to be single for the rest of his life, chances are that someone banged the his girlfriend many times as well, so who cares? Other than the fact that the guy sounds like an insufferable twat, I'm sure I'd get that impression regardless of what it had to do with. He just sounds like an *******.
Michael91 Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 I believe you are foolish. Wanting to fight a man you don't know and may not meet again is stupid. There is always a possibility of getting injured or worse and, even if you win, you have not accomplished anything of value.
OhThatGirl Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 You're lucky. If I were out with a boyfriend and he reacted to something so petty by "wanting to fight" the guy who smirked, I'd be likely leaving alone. I have zero tolerance for immaturity and pettiness, much less immaturity and pettiness leading to a physical altercation. How embarrassing. Come on. Have some confidence. The problem is instead of letting your girlfriend see the other guy as a smirking creep you made yourself the bigger idiot. And seriously?! Getting annoyed she said he could take you? You got what you deserved with that comment. Stop dragging your knuckles and tuck away your ego. Hope you've learned your lesson. Next time (if this ever comes up again) when a girl says it was a guy she has slept with (mildly distasteful, I agree with some others that simply saying it was a guy she had dated before knowing you, but whatever.. It was honest) just pull her close and jokingly tell her you're proud she's making better decisions these days. Do it jokingly. Be confident and funny at the same time. See how this wins over wanting to fight a guy that could kick your ass? Yep.
Tayken Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 You're lucky. If I were out with a boyfriend and he reacted to something so petty by "wanting to fight" the guy who smirked, I'd be likely leaving alone. I have zero tolerance for immaturity and pettiness, much less immaturity and pettiness leading to a physical altercation. How embarrassing. Come on. Have some confidence. The problem is instead of letting your girlfriend see the other guy as a smirking creep you made yourself the bigger idiot. And seriously?! Getting annoyed she said he could take you? You got what you deserved with that comment. Stop dragging your knuckles and tuck away your ego. Hope you've learned your lesson. Next time (if this ever comes up again) when a girl says it was a guy she has slept with (mildly distasteful, I agree with some others that simply saying it was a guy she had dated before knowing you, but whatever.. It was honest) just pull her close and jokingly tell her you're proud she's making better decisions these days. Do it jokingly. Be confident and funny at the same time. See how this wins over wanting to fight a guy that could kick your ass? Yep. Like this...and right there, just squeeze and smack that arse That is what I'll do.....
beach Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 This afternoon I had lunch with my girlfriend and her little brother. We were eating some wings and her brother said "man, I almost choked!" I looked at him and said "well don't stuff your mouthful like you did" he said "i didnt, i really didnt" then i said "I have seen how you eat, you eat so fast like the food is going to run from you" my girlfriend looked at me and said "wow you are a jackass", i said "what, you have even mentioned that before" she said " yea but coming from you makes you look like a jackass" i apologized but didn't see where I was that rude. I mean I was trying to tell him to slow down so he wouldn't choke! This was your prior thread starter... You need to learn how to control your thoughts, emotions and mouth. Physical harm will never solve emotional feelings. If you need a gal that doesn't have history with other men - date someone more appropriate for your needs.
OhThatGirl Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 (edited) ^^^ Wow. Yeah. Wouldn't hurt to try practicing a bit of restraint and.. tact? Between this eating incident and the mall incident you'd never hear from me again if I were her. Sounds like you have a habit of being disrespectful. Edited March 16, 2014 by OhThatGirl
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