crazybestie101 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Today , i stalked my ex on social media. He has been vacationing place we once decided to go. Saw all kinds of girls liking his post. Sure , he forgot me , he doesn't think of me. After all attention he has been getting from girls. Now understanding that why he has never reached out to me once in 6 months. This guy is new person , he was done while back and he never want to look back again. And why would he look back , i mean he is getting attention he wants. Now realizing why he isn't messaged me once because he never had that " missing ( me)" opportunity. I think he will never get that opportunity as he will keep chasing girls and they will give him attention. Once i was everything to him , my views matters the most to him , now i am stranger that he doesn't care. From everything to Nothing. People change and can be so heartless..This is it! Nothing more can explain me this..Just called my family about it .. They know how much i am hurting , they are worried for my life.. Just wanted cry here...
LostConfused123 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I'm sorry you're hurting! Not much else I can say. ((hugs!)) But you know what?? I really don't think you're as easy to forget as you think you are. Not sure if that's the right thing to say but it's just my opinion. 1
flightplan Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Sometimes guys do this to help them move through the pain of missing an ex. Maybe he's doing this, maybe not. But trust me, you're on his mind. He didn't forget you. Hang in there. 3
deathandtaxes Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 For ****'s sake, OP, don't stalk your ex on social media!! 2
BC1980 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 It has been preached time and time again not to stalk on social media because, often times, not knowing is better than knowing. It would hurt me to find out my ex was with someone else, which is one reason I am in NC. I would rather be oblivious until I can be indifferent. You really aren't going to move forward unless you stop obsessing, stalking on FB, wanting a second chance, ect,. We've all been there, and we know it's hard. However, you are making it unnecessarily hard by looking at his FB. It's not worth it. 2
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 If they ate "fearing for your life", what are you doing on here? You should be in contact with the hospital.
Author crazybestie101 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 If they ate "fearing for your life", what are you doing on here? You should be in contact with the hospital. lol Oh lord , i meant to say they are worried how much i am crying over this guy , how it has taken over my life. They have sent me out of state to go to school and whenever they call , atleast once i talk about this. So they are worried that i am so distracted and they are trying to make every effort to calm me down.
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 lol Oh lord , i meant to say they are worried how much i am crying over this guy , how it has taken over my life. They have sent me out of state to go to school and whenever they call , atleast once i talk about this. So they are worried that i am so distracted and they are trying to make every effort to calm me down. You dated him 3 months. It's probably about time you went and saw someone, if you're still stalking him on social media etc.
LostConfused123 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 After touching the stove and finding it is still hot, I'm certain you won't make this mistake again. Don't beat yourself up!! But next time you get the urge, STOP YOURSELF and remember. . . . ignorance is bliss! At least for us Love Shackers. Best of luck in your recovery. You can always message me instead of snooping. I'll talk you out of it ((hugs!)) 1
Conners Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 You dated him 3 months. It's probably about time you went and saw someone, if you're still stalking him on social media etc. This. I remember some of your posts from when I first joined LS. You dated 3 months and you are still obsessing over him. I'm sorry but he just doesn't care and probably never will. There must be some other underlying issues if you are still caught up on this guy. 3 months isn't much to look back on.
Author crazybestie101 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 This. I remember some of your posts from when I first joined LS. You dated 3 months and you are still obsessing over him. I'm sorry but he just doesn't care and probably never will. There must be some other underlying issues if you are still caught up on this guy. 3 months isn't much to look back on. Yes may be for some there isn't much to look back on. But that doesnt mean you completely forget about dumpee, act like they dont exist, don't even check back on.. I am not hung up on him , accepted that he is not coming back. I am just seeing how cold he has turned , how much he has changed and he doesn't think of me. In many of his pictures , i saw he still wears shirts that i gifted him. And he is visiting places that we went together.. Isn't all these should be reminding him of me? aren't dumper avoid going to such memories?
pickflicker Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Yes may be for some there isn't much to look back on. But that doesnt mean you completely forget about dumpee, act like they dont exist, don't even check back on.. I am not hung up on him , accepted that he is not coming back. I am just seeing how cold he has turned , how much he has changed and he doesn't think of me. In many of his pictures , i saw he still wears shirts that i gifted him. And he is visiting places that we went together.. Isn't all these should be reminding him of me? aren't dumper avoid going to such memories? You need to let go. This is getting silly now. Whether he thinks about you or not, he is not interested in speaking to you. How long are you going to keep doing this? I think you've convinced yourself that this relationship is more than it is. You're convinced that he loved you as much as you loved him, and I don't think he did. For him, it's over. Please begin to accept it. 4
BC1980 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Yes may be for some there isn't much to look back on. But that doesnt mean you completely forget about dumpee, act like they dont exist, don't even check back on.. I am not hung up on him , accepted that he is not coming back. I am just seeing how cold he has turned , how much he has changed and he doesn't think of me. In many of his pictures , i saw he still wears shirts that i gifted him. And he is visiting places that we went together.. Isn't all these should be reminding him of me? aren't dumper avoid going to such memories? The amount of time isn't the point. The point is that you need to move on. It is very possible to have a relationship with someone and end up realizing you felt a lot differently than the other person. Regardless, you need to start making it about you, so you can move on. 1
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Sorry for your pain, I can relate to it. Stop online stalking your ex and try to focus on what you need to do to move forward and find a new guy to love. Leave the past behind...
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Sound Advice I dressed my ex. She is probably head to toe in stolen goods right now. My consolation is that she looks better than she did before she met me. Social media. Block in the next few minutes please. You need to let go. This is getting silly now. Whether he thinks about you or not, he is not interested in speaking to you. How long are you going to keep doing this? I think you've convinced yourself that this relationship is more than it is. You're convinced that he loved you as much as you loved him, and I don't think he did. For him, it's over. Please begin to accept it. 1
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